Trusting Birth

by Jasmine Carlson on February 4, 2010

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A few days ago I was putting together a letter for the 2010 Trust Birth Conference and it started me on a train of thought that culminated today as I was sitting having the second pedicure of my life at the local beauty school. Let me take you for a little ride.

Most of us know that your bond with your child starts at a very early age, pre-birth actually. They hear you and are able to sense1101712371_b76082939f many of your emotions. They can even detect some of your actions. A baby can sense when they are wanted and loved and when they are not.

From the very first moment I wanted my baby and everything to do with baby making to be healthy and holistic. Several people suggested I drink before my wedding night to make things “easier.” My thought was “Why? I want this to be the night that my husband and I become one, where we attach, where we form our life-long bond, why would I want to be anesthetized for something as amazing as this?”

I was pregnant very shortly after my wedding and I was happy to know that my son was conceived with me in a conscious and aware state of mind. During his pregnancy I thought about what I put in to my mouth, what I listened to, what I read, and who I was choosing as a care provider. When it came time to birth my son I trusted that my body knew what to do, I surrounded myself with people who could re-affirm that belief if I happened to lose my direction during labor.

I had him where I was most comfortable, at home, with my mother, my sisters, my husband, a midwife and even my father. I was surrounded by the people who I was attached to and I was fully conscious and aware as I took each step to birth my son. When my son was born I grabbed him to myself, skin-to-skin rocking him and crying “my baby, my baby”; we knew each other.

I know all kinds of women who have birthed and attached to their children in all kinds of ways. It is always work. Sometimes I think it is more work than is necessary because trusting birth is just a step in trusting yourself as a parent, trusting attachment, trusting your choices.

Trust starts at conception, they are entrusted to us and fully trust in us as we birth and raise them to become fully attached loving and loved children.

Jasmine is a co-housing community living mama with a passion for fierce writing she blogs at www.herscreed.wordpress.com

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Jasmine is a community living mama with a passion for fierce writing and fitness. She her way on Team USA by fitness coaching. Shaping Her. (www.shapingher.com) Join the conversation at (www.facebook.com/ShapingHer)


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Chrystal @ Happy Mothering February 4, 2010 at 8:31 am

Very sweet story. This quote brought tears to my eyes, “When my son was born I grabbed him to myself, skin-to-skin rocking him and crying “my baby, my baby”; we knew each other.” It couldn’t be that I’m 40 weeks pregnant today and just waiting to meet my second sweet little daughter!

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Erin Geyer-Gilman February 4, 2010 at 8:41 pm

“When it came time to birth my son I trusted that my body knew what to do, I surrounded myself with people who could re-affirm that belief if I happened to lose my direction during labor.” Jasmine via API
What happens when those you choose to fully support you are the ones who suddenly fear birth even before its had a chance to begin? I was told by both midwives to go to the hospital at 42 weeks because I had no labor and no dialation, although my son and I showed no signs of distress!

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Jasmine Carlson February 7, 2010 at 8:36 pm

The midwife that was attending me thought I should go to the hospital right in the middle of my labor because she had not been to very many first time labors even though neither my baby or I were in distress. I was also 16 days “late”. It is a bummer when someone who is supposed to be supporting you all of the sudden is afraid even though they have told you to trust. I think that is when we need to be able to trust our own bodies and what we think and feel, we are in touch with our babies and our selves, if we have a partner it is great to have them as support… keep yourself educated and trust yourself!

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