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Homework, Bullies, and More with Judy Arnall

Join us for the next API Live! Teleseminar scheduled for September 27, 2010 at 9pm ET/6pm PT – “Homework, Bullies, and More: Challenges at Home and School” with special guest Judy Arnall.

Register for this call to hear hosts Lu Hanessian and API co-founder Lysa Parker talk with Judy Arnall about common school related issues including bullying, homework, time management and peer relationships.

Please submit your questions for Judy to API Live (apilive [AT] attachmentparenting [DOT] org) in advance and we will try to address them during the call.

You can support API’s misson and take advantage of the knowledge and experience of API Live’s special guests by signing up today. Every dollar of your sign up fee goes toward education, support and outreach for parents in need. And don’t wory about last minute conflicts–everyone who signs up will receive a link to download the MP3 the week after the event. After purchase, you will get an email with the conference call dial-in details.
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“Parenting Without Power Struggles” with Susan Stiffelman

Register now for the next API Live! Teleseminar scheduled for September 13, 2010 at 9pm ET/6pm PT – “Parenting Without Power Struggles” with Susan Stiffelman.

Register for this call to hear hosts Lu Hanessian and API cofounder Barbara Nicholson talk with Susan Stiffelman. You’ll discover how to:

Transform frustration and aggression into adaptation and cooperation
Keep your cool when your kids push your buttons, talk back or refuse to “play nice”
Nourish deep attachment with young and older kids
Help your ADD’ish child survive and thrive, even if you’re ADD’ish yourself
Inoculate your kids from negative thinking and peer pressure that lead to anger, anxiety, depression, or behavior issues
Help children manage the emotional challenges of divorce

Susan Stiffelman is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor, an Educational Therapist, Parent Educator and Professional Speaker. She holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Developmental Psychology from Johnston College/ University of Redlands, a California K-9 Teaching Credential, a Masters of Arts degree from Antioch University in Clinical Psychology, and a California Marriage and Family Therapist licensesince 1991.

REGISTER NOW to learn more about this event, find out how to submit your own questions for Susan Stiffelman, and read her entire biography.

Helping Children Become Independent

There are some things that simply drive us parents crazy: One is when your child insists on doing something that you want to do yourself. You are trying to feed your 1-year-old mashed potatoes and carrots, and he clamps his mouth shut while squashing the mixture through his fingers. You finally finish dressing your 3-year-old so you can make it on time to work, only to find that she has undressed herself 2 minutes later because she wants to do it herself. And as you are carefully unpacking the groceries, your 6-year-old silently volunteers to put the tray of 36 eggs into the refrigerator. (These examples are just for starters. I’m sure you’ll think of many more)!

Another thing that drives parents crazy is when your child refuses to do something you know he can do by himself. Your 3-year-old will only eat supper if you feed her. Your 5-year old will only get dressed if you dress him. And your 7-year-old will only put away his toys if you do it with him. (Yes, there’s more).

Hard as we try to keep our composure, our frustration rises and we lose our patience. When our children need our help, why won’t they let us help them? And why won’t they do things for themselves when they can? Israeli parent educator Shoshana Hayman explains…

Read the rest of the story on The Attached Family Online (now available to everyone).

The Truth About Spanking with Nadine Block

Register now for this next API LIVE! Teleseminar scheduled for Monday, August 30, 9 pm ET/6 pm PT – The Truth About Spanking: What Parents Must Know About Physical Discipline with special guest Nadine Block.

the practice and effect of spanking on cognitive and physical well-being
the confusion surrounding spanking and good behavior
how our own childhood experience drives our decision to spank or not
what to do if your spouse and you disagree on spanking
and more.

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API Live – Attachment Parenting with Mayim Bialik

Register now for the next API Live teleseminar. Hear API LIve hosts Lu Hanessian and API cofounder Barbara Nicholson talk with attachment parenting mother of two and actress Mayim Bialik. Hear about Mayim’s personal AP parenting experiences. Find out about her new projects, including an AP book she’s writing on what babies need (and don’t need) and why she feels so compelled to spread the word.

You can support API’s mission and take advantage of the knowledge and experience API Live’s special guests by signing up today. Every dollar of your sign up fee goes toward education, support and outreach for parents in need.

After registration, you will get an email with the call-in information and then after the program you will receive the download details for this exciting MP3.

Register now for $19 ($9 for API members–so join today!). If you are not an API member, you will be able to join and purchase (for $44 total – a 25% savings!). API Leaders register for free.

DATE: Monday, August 16, 2010
TIME: 8:00 pm ET/5:00pm PT – Please note that this is one hour earlier than previous teleseminars.

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Separation Anxiety – Your Child’s and Yours

Register now for API’s next live teleseminar: “Separation Anxiety – Your Child’s and Yours” with special guest Elizabeth Pantley. Register for this call to hear hosts Lu Hanessian and Lysa Parker talk with Elizabeth Pantley about:

If you work so hard at creating attachment, why encourage separation?
Do AP children have more separation anxiety than others?
If you have a baby who won’t let you out of her sight without crying, how do you handle that?
Should an AP parent ever leave their child with a babysitter?
What do you do if your child cries when you leave him with a sitter?
Is it normal for a parent to suffer separation anxiety?
What are your tips for parents who have a hard time separating from their children?

The human body contains a specialized system called the endocannabinoid system (ECS), which is involved in regulating a variety of functions including sleep, appetite, pain and immune system response, on Discover Magazine you can learn much more information.

Separation anxiety is a very serious issue that has to be dealt with appropriately. Even pets have it and owners are taking it seriously, providing anxiety medicine for dogs or cats.

Elizabeth Pantley is the author of the new book The No-Cry Separation Anxiety Solution: Gentle Ways to Make Good-Bye Easy from Six Months to Six Years.

DATE: Monday, July 26, 2010
TIME: 9pm ET / 6pm PT

REGISTER NOW!

If you missed our last API Live teleseminar, Settling the Cosleeping Controversy with Dr. James McKenna, the recording is available for download now.

API’s Use Nurturing Touch and Safe Sleep Blog Carnival

Welcome to the latest installment of the Attachment Parenting International Principles of Parenting blog carnival. This month’s carnival will cover API’s 4th and 5th Principles of Parenting – Use Nurturing Touch and Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally. If you’re interested in participating in a future carnival, please visit the API Blog Carnival Schedule for more details.

The Importance of Infant Massage
Guest Post for API Speaks by Barbara Nicholson

The mothers of India have given the world one of the most important parenting tools known to humanity: infant massage. It is probably hard to imagine raising a baby without this gentle, everyday experience, but in some western cultures (particularly the U.S.) it is just being discovered!

A Mother’s Kiss
Living Peacefully with Children

When we were expecting our first child, I bought the requisite newborn hats. Afterall, every new baby needed hats to keep their little head warm. When our son was born, instinct kicked in. As I brought him to my chest to snuggle him close, my head automatically dipped, taking in his new baby smell and kissing the top of his wet little head.

Our Nighttime Nurturing
Maman A Droit

For a while, Baby thought 2:30 AM was playtime. It’s our fault really. For one thing, Hubby often stayed up that late doing grad school homework last semester. It also then worked out that staying up until 3 AM meant Baby slept during the day while Daddy was gone, and played while Daddy was home to admire all his tricks.

Reconnection
Picklebums

We parent our children to sleep…. all of them, even the six year olds who don’t necessarily need us to. For all three kids it seems bed time is the time to catch up on closeness.

Where the Baby Sleeps
Living Peacefully with Children

“Good. That’s where babies should be – snuggled with their mamas. Babies need to stay with their mothers in order to stay warm and keep breathing, and so they remember to nurse throughout the night.” This was what had been passed down to her through generations of women.

Frequently Asked Questions About Sleeping With Your Baby
Baby Dust Diaries

I often get asked the same questions about our Family Bed. Aellyn has slept between my husband and I since the day she came home (she also slept in bed with me at the Birth Center – something some hospitals will not allow).

Sleeping Safe and (Psychologically) Sound
Connected Mom

Bedsharing is an ancient concept. Still practiced all over the world, bed sharing has become a subject of controversy in the United States. Often the debate centers around the safety issues regarding bed sharing.

Take Your Kids’ Kisses
mamaTRUE

I recently discovered the Secret Society of Happy People. While I don’t think I have figured out how to walk through life with the requisite joy to become a member, I’m using them as an example in my quest to learn how to be happy.

Ensuring safe sleep – meeting the needs of parents and child
Little Snowflakes

When Dylan was 6 weeks old, I enrolled us in a mom and baby class at a local parenting center. I figured it would be a good way to meet other moms and to force myself to get dressed and out of the house.

Infant Massage: An encounter of love that goes beyond the borders of the body
Guest Post for API Speaks courtesy of Infant Massage USA

A touch, a look, a gesture… are encounters of love where the magic of innocence and candor unite. Mothers, fathers and babies are immersed in an atmosphere of tenderness and simplicity, in which voices, whispers, songs, looks and movements are party to a loving and eternal relationship.

API June Blog Carnival
Journey to the Simple Life

My journey towards co-sleeping began years ago, I think it was a 20/20 special about it. I thought it was odd at the time, boy, how my mind has been changed!