The root of bullying is shame

November 9, 2015

By Dr. Shefali Tsabary, PhD, clinical psychologist and founder of #EndShame. Reposted with permission. There is a new “discipline” fad going around: Your kid does something “bad” — you post it on the Internet. You put a sign around their neck that defines their “crime” for all the world to see. After all, when they […]

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To spank, or not to spank?

September 8, 2015

I recently came across a social media post that opened with the following phrase: “Have to laugh at people who are against spanking.” The post stated that spanking leads to a child learning respect and boundaries with the absence of any trust issues and hatred toward the parent, and so on and so forth. It […]

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You can do it: You are strong enough to stop spanking

May 1, 2015

Editor’s note: April 30 was Spankout Day, an international observance designed to encourage parents to stop spanking. Attachment Parenting International‘s Seventh Principle of Parenting: Practice Positive Discipline advocates against physical punishment and further supports parents to move away from the punishing mindset. There is another way. You don’t have to spank your kids to discipline […]

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Obeying out of fear

April 7, 2015

“A child who obeys out of fear will only do so as long as he or she is scared. A child like this never develops an internalized sense of right and wrong without being policed by a more powerful authority figure.” ~ Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma by Nancy Samlin How do you feel […]

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National Spank Out Day – Positive Discipline Resources

April 30, 2012

April 30th is National Spank Out Day, which was established to promote non-violent discipline of children. Today, we aim to raise awareness about physical punishment for children, as well as educate parents about effective discipline practices that do not involve hitting and spanking. Here, we’ve listed some of API’s resources on positive discipline, as well […]

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AP and Spanking Don’t Mix

July 27, 2011

Many parents, even many of those who are focused on creating a secure attachment with their child, spank as a form of discipline.  They may say things like… “I only spank when….” “I only spank after I’ve tried [XYZ] first.” “Spanking is OK when it’s done [a certain way], but not [a certain other way].” […]

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Redirection as a Discipline Tool…For Parents!

September 14, 2009

The beautiful little girl in these pictures is my niece Victoria. I will never forget the day Victoria’s mom called me and I could hear the panic and anger in her voice. As the story unfolded I could also tell that she called me as a means of protecting her daughter from the anger she […]

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