Using TV as Sanity-Saving Tool

by Rita Brhel on May 10, 2012

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My kids are bugging me a bit today. Yes, I’ve said it: Every parent has moments when they’re discontent with their children. I think that’s important for everyone, especially parents who are new to Attachment Parenting or who are struggling at this moment, to remember – even the long-time, forever AP parents have their moments, or days, or weeks.

What are they doing? The usual kid stuff. Pulling all their toys out of their bedroom and then dilly-dallying when it’s clean-up time. Taking a bite out of an apple and then deciding they don’t want to eat it after all. Complaining that her sister got the fuller cup of juice. Eating a couple pieces of Easter candy and begging for more. Not using soap while hand-washing right after I’ve sent them back for a second try. Nothing extraordinary, and usually nothing that I can’t handle without a smile and patience and compassion. But today, it’s just not working for me…

Oh, I try not to let it show. But kids are perceptive, and I’m sure they notice. So, I’m taking a break.

Certainly, since I work from home, I can’t go too far. In fact, I’m still in the same room. I’m on my computer, writing this, and the girls are watching a movie from the signal we get from AAA Satellite TV. The baby is with me.

We don’t watch a lot of TV. I try to limit it to the evenings when my husband is home. Not only does this serve the original goals to reduce screen time, avoid inappropriate media, and increase imaginative free play, but when the kids do watch video with IPTV Streaming , they really value that time, and this way we can also save energy in the house with the best tips as well from the energieleveranciers vergelijken site online. So, I use TV to keep my kids occupied while I’m on conference calls that require more of my participation than listening…and on days like today when I need some me-time (well, me-and-baby-time since I don’t expose babies to direct viewing until about three years old). I prefer DVDs, because there are no commercials to monitor, and there is a definite end time.

Then, I take my me-time. Sometimes, I work on a project that really needs some undivided attention. Sometimes, like today, I write something purely for emotional release. Sometimes, I don’t work at all. I sit down to nurse, with a book and a glass of iced tea. If my husband’s home, I might take a bath or a nap. But I find that whatever I do that I’m in the mood for at the time will rejuvenate me. If I try to ignore that I need me-time or, alternately, I try to something that needs to be done but that I’m not in the mood for, like folding clothes or washing dishes, I only get more wound up and that’s when I’m in danger of losing it. Balance is so important for all moms, work-at-home parents, too – perhaps more so, sometimes, since we’re working on high-pressure deadlines while trying to maintain the slowness that it takes to raise children.

I, like any mother, put a lot of pressure on myself to be better, smarter, wiser… On one hand, what does that say about me that I use TV as a babysitter? On the other hand, should I care what other people think if it works for my family?

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Rita Brhel (183 Posts)

Rita Brhel, BS, CLC, API Leader, lives with her family near Hastings, NE, USA, where she works as a WIC Breastfeeding Counselor. She also writes for Mothering and La Leche League's New Beginnings.

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Janine @ Alternative Housewife May 13, 2012 at 3:50 pm

Meh, I don’t think TV is bad for anyone in moderation. My kid watches an unholy amount of Sesame Street, but if that means I can get work done and spend a couple extra minutes in bed alone with my husband, it’s worth it. My toddler gets to see animals onscreen that he doesn’t have exposure to in real life – He recently started hopping around like a frog, something he wouldn’t ‘get’ from seeing them in a book – and I have that ‘me’ time. I work at home and being able to afford food is more important than a strict ‘no-TV’ policy. A lot of daycare facilities have kids watching TV anyway – Might as well do it at home where it’s free and I’m still present.


KrissyFair May 18, 2012 at 5:37 am

You know, I used to fight the TV too. But then I reminded myself that there are a lot of other things that I’m putting effort into, so this one I can let slide. My 2 year old loves dinosaur and animal shows. He can ID 5 different species of dinos and the other day told me the hermit crabs are coming. I’m not sure what that meant, but it convinced me the TV isn’t stunting his imagination!!


Thomas Paine June 1, 2012 at 11:53 am

I started to write a comment but it turned into a blog post 🙂


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