Respond with Sensitivity

Understanding Shame, part 2: Fear

February 28, 2017

Editor’s note: This week, we offer you a 5-part series — originating in The Attached Family online magazine’s “Parenting Without Shame” issue — to help you better understand the development of toxic shame. Part 1 explained how trauma includes 3 components: Fear, Disconnection, and Shame. In this Part 2, we take a look at Fear. […]

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Still Face: A lesson in responsiveness and relationship repair for ALL caregivers

February 24, 2017

How important is it that we give our infants and children intentional presence? The third of API’s Eight Principles of Parenting — respond with sensitivity — is one of two common threads that run through all 8 principles. The other is to provide consistent and loving care. Research that began with the late psychologist John Bowlby’s […]

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6 games to instill mindfulness and gratitude in our children (and ourselves)

February 20, 2017

Since I became a mom 10 years ago, I have been committed to helping my daughter see the good in things as a first reflex. My own upbringing did not allow for this way of being in the world and, instead, instilled the typical apprehension and worry that seems to be passed down to children […]

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Bring kindness home

February 17, 2017

Kindness is a behavior marked by the quality of being generous, friendly, helpful, and considerate. Editor’s Note: Today, February 17, is Random Acts of Kindness Day, an observance created by the Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) Foundation to spread kindness by encouraging individuals, groups, and organizations to engage in acts of kindness. In line with Attachment […]

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API Reads Reflection: Getting better at what we care about

February 16, 2017

We all want to get better at the things we care about. Today’s reflection from API Reads is taken from a TED Talk video. This 11-minute video touches upon the topic of improvement by explaining it with the use of “learning” and “performance” zones: “We create social risks for one another, even in schools, which are […]

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We have to be seeking growth to be able to experience it

February 15, 2017
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