Respond with Sensitivity

Why?

December 17, 2013

“Why mama?” Two huge brown eyes looked up at me, searching for answers. I stopped stirring and put down the spoon. “Because it is hot, and I don’t want you to get hurt.” Acceptance. There was no drama, no bargaining or rewards. Only contentment, pure and simple. For me, “Why?” is one of the most […]

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Choose Compassion

December 13, 2013

It’s likely, as a reader of the APtly Said blog, you’ve done it. You looked at the world, at families, at children, and said, “I choose compassion.” In choosing compassion, you really have made so many choices. A choice to become educated about parenting and prepare to welcome your child into the world; a choice […]

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The Gift Is You

December 12, 2013

This post was written by TheAttachedFamily.com contributor Stacy Jagger, MMFT, owner of Sunnybrook Counseling, www.sunnybrookcounseling.com. Many parents I see in my counseling office are spending thousands of dollars on a variety of technological devices for their children each year–gaming systems, digital cameras, cell phones, etc.–while the children, who are displaying maladaptive behaviors and internal turmoil, […]

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Empathy: The Foundation of Emotion Coaching

December 10, 2013

This post was written by Stephanie Petters, coordinator of the API Reads program. The discussion of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child  by John Gottman, PhD is continuing to unfold as we near the end of the book.  An excerpt from the book: “When children feel emotionally connected to their parents and the parents use this […]

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Transitions in Attachment Parenting: Infancy to Toddlerhood, Part 5

December 3, 2013

We are concluding this series with two more of the most common challenges of transitioning from infancy to toddlerhood as your baby grows. Here is what parents had to say… What do you find most challenging about transitioning from using AP in infancy to using AP in toddlerhood? Challenge: Understanding Needs vs. Wants Figuring out […]

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Transitions in Attachment Parenting: Infancy to Toddlerhood, Part 4

November 27, 2013

We are continuing this series with two more of the most common challenges of transitioning from infancy to toddlerhood as your baby grows. Here is what parents had to say … What do you find most challenging about transitioning from using AP in infancy to using AP in toddlerhood? Challenge: Understanding Aggression My toddler feels […]

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Transitions in Attachment Parenting: Infancy to Toddlerhood, Part 3

November 20, 2013

We are continuing this series with two more of the most common challenges of transitioning from infancy to toddlerhood as your baby grows. Here is what parents had to say … What do you find most challenging about transitioning from using AP in infancy to using AP in toddlerhood? Challenge: Not Listening “NO! NO! NO!” […]

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When Your Partner Wants You to Wean: Heart Advice for Nursing Mothers

November 12, 2013

*The terms “husband” and “partner” are used interchangeably throughout this post. “She’s too old to nurse. You need to stop.” “There’s no way my son is nursing when he’s three years old!” “You are being selfish. Breastfeeding past one year is unnecessary. You only do this because it gives you pleasure.” “I should have a […]

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