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This Father is Not a Mother

December 16, 2008

When my wife and I had our first child, I remember thinking that I wished that we could have twins, so I could hold one sometimes (I have since withdrawn that wish…). I thought to myself that attachment parenting really meant attached-to-the-mama parenting. It seemed to me that when our baby wasn’t nursing on mama, [...]

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Enjoy the Now: Being Present With Your Children

October 17, 2008

In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present. -from the Tao Te Ching, Stephen Mitchell translation One of the greatest gifts that the natural father can [...]

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It’s Not Called Permissive Parenting

September 23, 2008

The world is full of followers, but you’re not one of them. – JL Glass I recently attended a seminar taught by JL Glass (he’s a very funny, charismatic speaker), and he mentioned that he tells his kids that. It got me to thinking about all of the messages we give our children, both verbally [...]

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Be Selfish: Finding Balance in Your Life

September 3, 2008

For busy families, fitting one more thing into your day might seem impossible, but adding something extra every day will actually revitalize and refresh you. After fighting his way home through traffic, an exhausted dad arrives at home ready to put his feet up. At the door, he meets the also exhausted mom holding a [...]

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