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Strive for Balance in Your Personal and Family Life

Replenishing You is Required for Your Child's Health and Growth

Caring for children is one of the most demanding jobs in the world and, in order to do it well, caregivers need regular replenishment through social, emotional and practical supports. These resources lead to family and child flourishing and their absence leads to stress, and struggles that are more likely to build up and be ignored instead of resolved. This build-up leads to illness for parents and children.

 

Parents can feel replenished through a regular sense of belonging and stress-buffering that comes from being connected to and nurtured by others.

 

Our work is focused on bringing you and other parents together in communities along with trained peer leaders where everyone shares, resolves and buffers stresses, learns effective coping skills and nourishes parenting knowledge.

 

You'll feel stress melt, leaving you lighter and opening up room for you to discover and share new ideas and manageable plans. You'll find new ways to see old problems, reconnect with and update your own internal parenting compass and use effective parenting skills that fit your family needs. Starting this cycle of flourishing begins with replenishment.

Read Kelly's story: "The amount of love and support I got from the other parents was amazing." 

 

Here's why your replenishment is important: 

  • Child needs are family priorities and children depend on adults to help them meet their needs and grow and learn.
  • Adults require emotional resources for their own health and for the capacity to parent in proactive, positive and responsive ways. Children learn, grow and flourish as a result.
  • Caring others are essential for human health. Full stop. Parents need that much more replenishment to navigate the special stresses of parenting. Self-care is essential, but not enough.

 

Self-replenishment essentials 

  • Connect with caring others regularly
  • Connect with a trained peer parent leader or join a parent group
  • Ask for help and welcome offers, and redirect offers to fit your needs
  • Realistic goals are often few in number, but big on overall wellbeing
  • Put people before things
  • Be creative in finding ways to spend couple time
  • Where are the moments for you in the day? 
  • Use a "mother's helper"
  • Eat healthy foods
  • Exercise regularly
  • Take naps
  • Take care of yourself
  • Say "no" to over-scheduling
  • Look for ways to make routine tasks easier
  • Get out of the house
  • Follow your heart and listen to your baby
  • Enjoy today - children help us shift our priorities to what matters most

Read about the benefits of groups on health and parenting.

Nurturing for New Mothers

A new mother can become so involved in the care of her infant that she doesn't recognize her own needs which can lead to emotional or physical trouble if she doesn't have caring support. If you're helping to care for a new mother, finding practical ways to help is almost always welcome. Other ways to help include:

  • Be patient and sensitive 
  • Say something appreciative about each other every day
  • Be grateful
  • Be an empathetic listener

 

Nurturing Can Include Older Children

  • Bring a friend or mother's helper to activities
  • Avoid over-scheduling
  • Spend time just being together
  • Develop family traditions
  • Have parent-child "dates"
  • Create family nights
  • Rekindle hobbies and interests

 

Parenting Burn Out is Real. Here's What You Need to Know.

Parenting burn-out is a real physical, emotional, and mental response to high levels of stress. If you're feeling relentlessly fatigued, strained, and physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, your whole body is sending you a signal to slow down and find time to replenish yourself. Ignoring these signals can lead to illness which leaves you unable to function overall or parent as you intend. Pay attention to your body and behaviors and use these resources

  • Try RAIN
  • Use yoga, meditation, or visualization
  • Rely on trusted doctors and professional counselors for guidance
  • Ask for help

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