Staying in Control when Things are Out of Control

by Rita Brhel on July 11, 2011

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“When I’m calm, I have no trouble responding patiently, but the problem is that my child’s tantrums jangle my nerves and I lose control of myself!”

Israeli parenting educator Shoshana Hayman hears parents say this over and over. They might be talking about their five-year-old son who is whining because we wants them to buy him the toy he sees on the shelf in the store, their 10-year-old son who is complaining because he claims it was his brother who made the mess that he now has to clean, or their 15-year-old daughter who criticizes the family rules. Parents often feel stretched to the limits of their patience because of these daily minor confrontations. Read more on The Attached Family online magazine at

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Rita Brhel (183 Posts)

Rita Brhel, BS, CLC, API Leader, lives with her family near Hastings, NE, USA, where she works as a WIC Breastfeeding Counselor. She also writes for Mothering and La Leche League's New Beginnings.

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MaMammalia July 11, 2011 at 1:34 pm

This is such an important topic that I wonder why the article isn’t available to non-members.


Rita July 11, 2011 at 1:47 pm

It is available for free to non-members. Just click on the link, and it’ll take you directly there. has been open to the public for about a year now.


MaMammalia July 11, 2011 at 2:06 pm

Thanks, I’ll give it a try! The link in the article above isn’t active and it won’t allow me to copy and paste.


Melissa July 12, 2011 at 1:57 pm

Fixed that – it should work now, thanks!


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