Does My Baby Need Routine Sleep Time?

by Rita Brhel on September 13, 2010

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Q: I get a lot of advice that babies and children do better if they have a routine way of doing everything, especially sleep time. Personally, it is very challenging for me to enforce a sleep time on my baby. How important is it to have schedules and routines for sleep, food, or other activities?

A: It is best to do what brings peace and joy to you and your family. The beauty of keeping your baby in your arms is that you get to know her well; this closeness allows you to respond to her cues rather than apply external theories. Any ideas that do not come from your baby are unlikely to resonate with who she is.

You are well connected to your baby and therefore find it difficult to oppose her direction. Congratulations! Nurture this healthy attachment. There is no need for you to “attach” to ideas that oppose your baby. She is your guide. When you respond to her lead, she learns to trust and rely on herself. Self-confidence and independence are the ability of the child to rely on herself and listen to her own body and soul.

American parent educator Naomi Aldort explains on The Attached Family online magazine (now available without logging in!)…

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Rita Brhel (183 Posts)

Rita Brhel, BS, CLC, API Leader, lives with her family near Hastings, NE, USA, where she works as a WIC Breastfeeding Counselor. She also writes for Mothering and La Leche League's New Beginnings.


giulia September 13, 2010 at 6:48 am

few words to express a big truth! 🙂
for me, this is the essence of what I learned from this experience of being mother…

Sharron September 17, 2010 at 6:16 am

Such a great question, and a very common one from first time parents. Your response is thoughtful from an API standpoint, however there seems to be some confusion about the words schedule and routine. I’ve written more about this here:
Grace and peace.

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