Working and Alternate Care Givers
This Principle is not complete without reading http://www.attachmentparenting.org/principles/intro.php -- important information for understanding the context API's Principles of Parenting.
If neither parent can be a full-time caregiver, then a child needs someone who is not only consistent and loving, but has formed a bond with them and consciously provides care in a way that strengthens the attachment relationship.
- Explore a variety of economic and work arrangement options to permit your child to be cared for by one or both parents at all times
- It is extremely important to have continuity of care with a consistent, loving, caregiver
- Parents should expect and encourage their child to form an attachment to the caregiver
- Frequent turnover of caregivers can be very damaging to the attachment process
- Make the transition to a caregiver well in advance of any separation so that it is a gradual process and is comfortable for the child
- Minimizing the number of hours in non-parental care as much as possible provides the best opportunity for a child to build secure attachments with parents
- Holding and cuddling helps parents and babies reconnect after being apart. Include the child in day-to-day tasks, and spend non-work time with family
For more information on evaluating childcare, consult the following API resources.
- Provide Consistent and Loving Care - One of API's Eight Principles of Parenting
- Our infant, with whom we practice AP, will have to go to daycare soon. He does not sleep alone during the day and needs to be rocked to sleep. Will daycare greatly affect him, and what can we do to make this transition smoother?
- Read How we make working work for us on APtly Said (blog)
- Read What to look for in a Preschool/day care center? on the API Forums
- Discuss childcare evaluation on API's Consistent and Loving Care Forum.