I really have appreciated his support and I'm disappointed to hear him say that I 'need' to leave her for a long weekend. I haven't been away from her for more than 2 hours at a time since she was born! We have had a chance to do dinner out alone a few times, and once we went to a movie. Usually these are scheduled for after she has fallen asleep with the hope that she will stay asleep while we're gone (and my mom is at the house with her).
When he has had to watch the girls on his own, he will tell me how difficult it was for me to be gone etc. etc. Last night he watched them in the evening and had to get B to sleep on his own. It was hard (according to him) so I said, "Can you see why I don't think it is a good idea to go out of town?" He said, "No, it seems like it is something you need to do more often so she gets used to other people."
I, of course, want to meet my husband's need for more time together away from the children, but I also want to meet my daughter's needs as well. For me, it is a no-brainer that my daughter's needs win right now. But I don't know how to help my husband understand that it just isn't time for a weekend away yet.