I guess I have a question on how you keep your marriage strong and keep sane as stay at home mothers.
I have been going to therapy for almost a year because our marriage isn't the best, and I get lots of advice from friends that the problem is, my husband and I dont' spend any time together, or have any fun together, our whole life revolves around our kids, and we raise our kids by "emotion" not "praticality". I guess I never really classified us as AP parents, but we do sleep with our kids, hardly ever get babysitters, I did breastfeed them all........anyway, we both feel it's natural to sleep with our kids, but we get a lot of feedback from people that it's wrong and that's why our marriage is crappy.
I'm wondering how you all do it? If your kids sleep with you, how do you get a babysitter at night so you can go out? Do your kids just stay awake till you get home? Do you do things such as bible study or things without your kids? I have tried it at church, and I have a really hard time leaving my kids in the nursery because they cry, then my "friends" Bless their hearts are only thinking of Me and that I need time to myself and bible study, tell me, leave them, they will be fine and you'll be a better mommy after having time to yourself, but then i leave them crying and while in bible study i can't even concentrate or enjoy it because all I can think about is my kids! They think it's ridiculous. Am I just not hanging around w/the right crowd or am I really being ridiculous with things? I'm sorry I am rambling here, I guess I need some support and don't even know what to ask for! I feel like I need time to myself, but at the same time want to be with my kids. I feel like I want my kids to go to bed at a bedtime, but then we just can't seem to put our kids to bed without sleeping with them! How do you all do it?
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Thanks so much!