Hi... I have written a few times recently. Anyway, the latest question is to do with how to respond and deal with my 2 yr 10 mnth old shouting and blocking my Mum, who is a lovely, lovely Grandma.
A brief background. My daughter and I moved out of the family home, when my hubby and I decided to separate, at the beginning of Dec (in Brazil) and then end of January we moved here, to the UK.
My Mum spent 2 1/2 months here with us, to help us adjust and settle us in. My daughter had undergone many changes and disruptions over a 2 mnth period and was also away from her Daddy, so we knew this was v hard for her and we both dealth, v sensitively with her emotional meltdowns and anger etc... my Mum got quite a bit, but she then was OK with her. They would go out together and to the library, park etc etc.... my Mum is extremely patient, loving, uses PD and understand children and toddlers a lot... anyhow, she went for 6 wks and is now back for 4 wks and has been here 2 weeks...
.... my daughter sometimes completely freaks out if my Mum comes in the room and she is on her own. SHe shouts "NO" at her and "No Nonnie!!" (her nick name for my Mum). She sometimes doesn't answer her and has been very 'offish' and angry with my Mum. My Mum has been strong, but is now getting v upset with it and I am too... I want to be sensitive to my daughter, who could be worried about my Mum leaving again, still processing her Dad is not around and there is a new threesome (she still talks about him and remembers things about him - they were close). I also would like my daughter to feel comfortable with my Mum. She is the small one and my main priority, but I also feel so sorry for my Mum who, understands it, but is bitterly disappointed and has been a tremendous help and support. My daughter is her only grandchild and very very special to her...
Any tips? help? I try to let my daughter know that Nonnie is my Mummy and kind and helpful and loves her. I try and explain we can be angry and can shout at the toys, but to not shout at Nonnie. Nonnie is not, in any shape or form, a shouter either.... nor am I, apart from a few times a month - at most, not strongly.
Any help or advice of how to handle this sensitively?
... other times she is fune with her and will read a book or eat and watch TV with her etc etc...
let me know what you think. THANKS XX
A brief background. My daughter and I moved out of the family home, when my hubby and I decided to separate, at the beginning of Dec (in Brazil) and then end of January we moved here, to the UK.
My Mum spent 2 1/2 months here with us, to help us adjust and settle us in. My daughter had undergone many changes and disruptions over a 2 mnth period and was also away from her Daddy, so we knew this was v hard for her and we both dealth, v sensitively with her emotional meltdowns and anger etc... my Mum got quite a bit, but she then was OK with her. They would go out together and to the library, park etc etc.... my Mum is extremely patient, loving, uses PD and understand children and toddlers a lot... anyhow, she went for 6 wks and is now back for 4 wks and has been here 2 weeks...
.... my daughter sometimes completely freaks out if my Mum comes in the room and she is on her own. SHe shouts "NO" at her and "No Nonnie!!" (her nick name for my Mum). She sometimes doesn't answer her and has been very 'offish' and angry with my Mum. My Mum has been strong, but is now getting v upset with it and I am too... I want to be sensitive to my daughter, who could be worried about my Mum leaving again, still processing her Dad is not around and there is a new threesome (she still talks about him and remembers things about him - they were close). I also would like my daughter to feel comfortable with my Mum. She is the small one and my main priority, but I also feel so sorry for my Mum who, understands it, but is bitterly disappointed and has been a tremendous help and support. My daughter is her only grandchild and very very special to her...
Any tips? help? I try to let my daughter know that Nonnie is my Mummy and kind and helpful and loves her. I try and explain we can be angry and can shout at the toys, but to not shout at Nonnie. Nonnie is not, in any shape or form, a shouter either.... nor am I, apart from a few times a month - at most, not strongly.
Any help or advice of how to handle this sensitively?
... other times she is fune with her and will read a book or eat and watch TV with her etc etc...
let me know what you think. THANKS XX
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