The other day at Kindy (preschool) she was unable to get her shoes on herself and she got really upset about it. The teacher said she wondered if the root of Evie's quite extreme reaction was in parental expectation or her own.
I don't think we expect Evie to be able to do too much. She is incredibly verbal and comes out with some amazing stories at times. I don't so much expect her to be able to do stuff as give her the chance to give it a go.
Evie's dad and I praise Evie a lot, I'm sure. We want to be encouraging and supportive. We try not to use the general "good girl" but end up saying lots of "good work" instead. I'm trying to be more specific about my positive comments ("I like how you gave your sister a toy" etc.)
We have very few AP friends here in New Zealand. The general advice that I've had regarding this is to either reduce our praise and/or just leave her to work through her frustration. Neither feel right.