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    apmommy2005
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    • Jun 2009
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    nurturing boys question

    #1
    06-23-2009, 03:28 PM
    Hello,

    I'm looking for somewhere on the Sears's website or in one of their books (I think I own almost all of them!) about a discussion on "loving" ones son. In other words, showing affection to a boy will not "make him a sissy." I cringed when I heard this statement... and it came from my very own father. Yikes!

    Anyhow, please send your links my way! I appreciate your help!

    Thanks!!
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    PaxMamma
    Forum Administrator and Casualty of Love
    • Mar 2008
    • 1708
    #2
    06-23-2009, 05:13 PM
    wow! our society really does a number on boys! it's such a disservice to them to tell them that they shouldn't be affectionate (or cry). this is very often homophobia in a poor disguise.

    there's nothing more attractive to me when my dh is being openly affectionate to me and our sons. and raising 2 boys, i can tell you i openly and whole-heartedly encourage affection and never shame them for their tears.

    i'm not positive, but i believe Sears discusses this in a book about fathering. could this be the book you're looking for? it's called "Becoming a Father".

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      naomifrederickmd
      Senior Forum Member
      • Mar 2008
      • 1317
      #3
      06-23-2009, 05:45 PM
      Here is another thread that deals with one mother concerned because a friend thought she was making a 'momma's boy'.
      http://www.attachmentparenting.org/f...ead.php?t=3480

      This is an interesting little article on raising emotionally intellegent boys.
      http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/5-ap/42-sons.htm

      This book-Raising a son By Jeanne Elium (p 88)has alot on why boys need affection too and why its a good thing. I have not read the whole book so cannot vouch if it is all AP but that part seems right on.

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        PaxMamma
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        • Mar 2008
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        #4
        06-25-2009, 08:18 PM
        i just read this on p. 112 in "Attached At the Heart" by our co-founders:
        "...Dr. Pollack found from his research that 'the absence of a close relationship with a loving mother puts a boy at a disadvantage in coming a free, confident, and independent man who likes himself and can take risks, and who can form close and loving attachments with people in his adult life'.''

        i think that sums it up!

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          apmommy2005
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          • Jun 2009
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          #5
          06-28-2009, 01:06 PM
          Thank you!!

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