First I should mention that my father is only playing with my DS & isn't being mean. That being said, I cannot stand when he says these things! Here is a conversation that just happened this past Saturday:

(My son sat in my dad's chair when my dad got up & was playing what we play at home by pretending he wasn't going to get up-I tickle him & DH "sits" on him to get him up.)

My dad: "Let me have my chair back please."

3 1/2 yr old DS: "No." (with big grin on his face)

My dad: "Can I punch you in the nose?" (said calmly)

DS: "No."

My dad: "Can I pinch you?"

DS: " No."

My Dad: "Can I pull your hair out?"

Me: "Dad, we're trying to teach him nice things." (DS got out of chair at this point.)

My dad said in a 'girlie' type sarcastic voice: "Can you nicely get out of my chair."

Me: "He was just playing with you."

My dad: "So was I."

Was going to explain but was tuned out & just let it go. Wasn't about DS being in my dad's chair, my dad thinks this is fun I guess b/c he says it out of blue before trying to play around. I just don't get it. How can that be funny? Have no idea what to say w/o upsetting or embassasing my dad. But it really bothers me. Any ideas on how to end this? We are not over there too often but would like to go over more & worried about this. Thanks!