How do you calm yourself down when you get seething angry with your children? Here's an example. We have been struggling on and off with biting this past year, my daughter bites my son, she has never bitten anyone else, never even looked like she would. With other children she does great with her frustration. We have identified a major issue being her dental health. The biting was at it's worst and we found out she had 3 cavities. We had them filled it completely stopped. Now a few months ago one of the fillings got very loose and needs to be replaced, the tooth is causing her problems again and she will not let us floss it without a major fight because it hurts so bad. We know this is going on, but we didn't put her on our dental insurance last year and can't afford another filling right now. So we have to wait until Jan 1 to get the filling fixed.

Okay so that was long, but here's the real issue. So today the kids were dumping water in and out of water cups while I cleaned the kitchen up, they were happy playing together. Than my son did something my daughter didn't like and she reached over and bit his arm, and hard and would not let go. Thank God he had on a very heavy flannel shirt and another layer as well, it didn't break skin. I am still seething at her, I am so angry. My husband handled the initial discipline of the situation, because I just couldn't. And my son has completely forgiven her and they are now happily running around and playing, but I am still seething. I am still so angry.

It's moments like this that I wonder does positive discipline really work? Because I have no repercussion to this, she laughs about it says yeah I know I won't do it again and then run's off. She's not getting it. I feel like I have to do something so that she will stop biting.

I can't seem to calm down even after my son who is the injured party is way past it.

My kids are 4 and 21mo.