Child abuse is never justified. But if you neglect to punish a child by his / her bad behavior you actually say that baby you do not care about them. This is why God gave us examples laid. Spare the rod spoil the child. In fact there are many ways to discipline a child, and physical strength needed very rarely, if you know how to teach children proper behavior, then reward them right away. Continue structure showing them examples of good behavior, but not always reward them with gifts or candy all the time. Children should be taught reward for good behavior is the pride and respect that it comes at yielding good behavior. Children will do almost anything for love.

Remember that a punishment and a reward are each just an external locus of control. In attachment parenting, we aim to teach children internal motivation for knowing how to behave; not using a behaviorist approach by issuing punishments and rewards. This would only teach children that their behavior should be based on a fear of what will happen to them, or the promise of a treat.

Children do not need to be punished in order to learn appropriate behavior. On the contrary, children know parents care about them when there is time taken to connect with them about their behavior and guide them in a loving way. This involves listening, validating feelings, focusing on solutions, and working together. Nothing in AP is about what to do TO a child so that he "learns a lesson".

I agree with you about physical punishment...although I would say it is never needed, not "rarely".