Some years ago, API Links editor Camille North's oldest son forgot his shoes on a routine trip to the grocery store. She and her son had struggled with the “shoe issue” for a while, and Camille hadn’t come up with a workable solution to help him remember to bring his shoes when they had errands to run. Frequently, they would have to double back to the house to retrieve a pair, and Camille would be impatient and irritable. This day, Camille decided to let her son take charge. They arrived at the store and, sure enough, his shoes were nowhere to be found. He ended up wearing his little sister’s flip-flops for the (mercifully short) shopping trip. He never again forgot his shoes.

Do natural and logical consequences work with older children? The whole concept made perfect sense with young children. However, the idea becomes more nebulous as your children get older and become more logical, inquisitive, intuitive, and analytical. More...

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