Hi
I have a 14 month old daughter. She still breast feeds and has recently been sick and lost some weight so is feeding more than usual to catch up. I have long hair which she likes to play with while she feeds, she has always been gentle but in the last few days she has been pulling it really hard.
I have tried telling her that it hurts me and asking her to be gentle and stroke me and I show her by stroking her hair/face. Sometimes this works but other times is doesn't, I can tie my hair back but she can still reach the tiny hairs by my ears which hurt even more! If I stop her hand she starts slapping or scratching.
Today I ended up raising my voice as she got my hair and pulled and wouldn't let go - she smiled and carried on. All this time she was feeding from me. When I had freed my hair I unlatched her and put her on the floor. She got very upset and signed for milk and so I said she had to be gentle and picked her up and let her feed again. Later she wouldn't stop pulling again and so I put her on the floor for a moment.
What I wanted to know was whether people thought that this was an ok way of dealing with hair pulling or is this too much like a time out?
I would really appreciate some help with this one.
Thanks
Amina
I have a 14 month old daughter. She still breast feeds and has recently been sick and lost some weight so is feeding more than usual to catch up. I have long hair which she likes to play with while she feeds, she has always been gentle but in the last few days she has been pulling it really hard.
I have tried telling her that it hurts me and asking her to be gentle and stroke me and I show her by stroking her hair/face. Sometimes this works but other times is doesn't, I can tie my hair back but she can still reach the tiny hairs by my ears which hurt even more! If I stop her hand she starts slapping or scratching.
Today I ended up raising my voice as she got my hair and pulled and wouldn't let go - she smiled and carried on. All this time she was feeding from me. When I had freed my hair I unlatched her and put her on the floor. She got very upset and signed for milk and so I said she had to be gentle and picked her up and let her feed again. Later she wouldn't stop pulling again and so I put her on the floor for a moment.
What I wanted to know was whether people thought that this was an ok way of dealing with hair pulling or is this too much like a time out?
I would really appreciate some help with this one.
Thanks
Amina
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