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2.5 y.o. hurting 8 mo sister#110-19-2009, 02:37 PMi am so sad and angry lately. my 2.5 yo son is constantly hitting, poking, kicking my 8 mo daughter. i do my very best to keep him from her but at times he is sweet and i don't want to forbid him from her. today he kicked her so hard with his shoes on that he bruised her eye. i was sitting right there and it came out of nowhere. i do the usual "hands are not for hhitting" phrase. tell him i love him and hug him when he hurts her. try to give him words/other things to do when he feel mad/frustrated at the baby. sometimes it works . lately he has been so aggressive and today i feel mad at him and i am having a hard time letting it go. i need a fresh perspective and some ideas please. thanks you very much.
Forum Administrator and Casualty of Love
- Mar 2008
#210-19-2009, 05:28 PMthat sounds rough! do you think he's upset about there being a baby? is he jealous? do you get enough one-on-one time w/him? does he ever interact peacefully w/her? does he hit when he's tired? hungry?
Junior Forum Member
- Apr 2008
#310-19-2009, 09:19 PMIt's hard having mama-love for both, and seeing one of your babies hurt the other one, isn't it?
My son was almost 2 when his younger sister was born. I predicted that her first words would be "get off of her!" because he would sit on her head, and that was my knee-jerk reaction.
What I did, hard as it was, was to ignore that kind of behaviour, and ask him to help me as much as he could--he would wipe her legs with diaper wipes while I cleaned her private parts, he would stroke her hair while I massaged her gums. I tandem nursed and let him pick which side. I also would let him hold her and I'd take pictures. I would tell him that she is my little baby, but that he was my big boy baby. Also I'd make a big, big deal out of hugging and holding him, and showing him in the mirror how happy I am to hold him.
Now he is almost 4 and she just turned 2. He still loves to change her diaper and play with her. They fight like cats & dogs, but they love each other to pieces and always look for the other.
I feel that your son misses his mommy and is looking for attention, any way he can get it.
#410-20-2009, 07:45 PM