HI guys- we have a 19 mo. old boy who is a super happy kid. He generally listens when he understands what we are asking and of course other times he doesn't. Lately he has been throwing his Stainless steel sippy (ouch!). During dinner we saw him getting ready to wind up and throw it and hubby tried to reach for it- but he hurled it knocking over 20oz. of a beverage all over the table (good aim- I suppose) Needless to say we had to completely dismantle to dining room to clean up. Then the next night- he threw his food everywhere while sitting for dinner. We screamed "No"- to which he laughs. Then comes the sippy again and we say things like- place your sippy on the tray- or we eat our food- or stop throwing. REgardless he threw the sippy agian- this time knocking something else over- I was infuriated (problem #1) then yanked him from the highchair (problem #2) to prevent further destruction and went into another room and sat on a chair and held him and talked. But of course- I scared him by yanking him out of the high chair- and he tolerated some holding from me but wanted Daddy- who wasn't acting like a lunactic at that moment.
I really try to tell him what I want him to do rather than what he shouldn't do - but sometimes- "no" slips out. and I raise my voice. I read unconditional parenting and agree with it completely- I struggled to apply some of the contents to such a young baby who isn't very verbal and cannot answer questions or even understand longer explanations as detailed in the book.

What do you guys do in this situation? I know we both just reacted and feel guilty afterwards. Truly- its as if my son just doesn't get it- he is playing and is happy in the moment- he is not doing this when he is angry- I'm sure from his perspective it is amusing to see stuff fall over when he throws his sippy at it. Ugh! He did learn how to touch us gently after telling him "Gentle" every time he hit us- again when excited.