My name is Corrina. My daughter, Maeve, is just about to turn three. We're having some ongoing issues with general aggression toward other children. Most recently we left a friend's home after Maeve repeatedly hit my friend's one year old son. I tried distraction, engaging her an activity that we all participated in together. I tried traditional timeouts. I tried simply removing her from the play area to spend some time with me. The last straw occurred when she struggled to get away from me to hit Charlie again! At that point, I just put her in the car and went home, both of us in tears. We talked about it at length and she responded well to an additional consequence at home (denying her a particular activity for the rest of the day). She seemed sorry and seemed to understand the consequence but we've been through this before.
We just signed her up for a soccer class she'll attend with Daddy which we hope will help. I think the root of the issue is a combination of her personality and under socialization. But I'm fearful to participate in activities with others' children as I'm always so mortified when she strikes other kids.