We woke up today with crying and shouting and weeping because of an argument between my girls for a doll. I have three children: 8yr DS, 5yr DD1 and 2.5DD2. DD1, as a second, lives with the belief that everyone takes everything away from her. I used to keep in mind who's toy was each, but as they grew I lost track, so now it's difficult to know who took what without whose permission.

When DS was younger, I aproached sharing by telling him he could choose one toy that he needed not to share if he didn't want to, so called a favourite. I really can't remember when we stopped doing this, as it realy worked. He could distinguish beloved toys from those for sharing, and he even started to tell me when a toy was ready for yard sale.

When the arrival of DD2 our little home organization became absent, and DD1 became greedy and intolerant . As I've said in a previous posting, I feel disorganized and without models to follow. I might add DH and I are both firstborns, so neither of us understand why DD1 makes such a fuzz for a toy, when we all know it's hers.

How do you approach sharing? Any sugestions about getting back in track with my girls?