Donovan is turning two on May 4th. I tried to nightwean him at 20 months, and he totally freaked out, so I let it go and he got over it shortly afterwards, thank goodness. DH now sleeps in the guest room(not happily), b/c we have a queen sized bed and was tired of getting kicked every night; and he insists that there is no way we would be able to fit a king up the stairs to our room, since they had a lot of trouble with moving the queen up there. Now, Donovan doesn't wake up that much, he starts off the night in his room and then crosses the hall to my room when he wakes up, which is usually right after I've gone to sleep. Then he'll wake up once more during the night and *maybe* once more in the early morning, before we get up for good.
Really it doesn't bother me at all -- but it bothers me that dh is sleeping on an air mattress in our spare bedroom, and also I am really really wanting to get pregnant within the next couple of months -- I think I read somewhere else in this forum that it is a lot harder to get pregnant unless you have nightweaned? I've had my period back since he was 15 months, and I know I ovulate every month. It's very, very obvious to me now, where it wasn't before.
So, yah, there are a couple of different reasons why I think it's time, though I am really nervous because of his reaction last time. But, he is considerably more verbal now than he was then....like, we actually have some two-way communication now. So I'm thinking, if I tell him a few days ahead of time it'll maybe help prepare him...?
But then there's the problem of getting him to sleep without nursing. Has anyone done Pantley's gentle removal plan? Is it worth it? I just got her No cry sleep solution book for toddlers, and have been planning on starting it, *after* I get Donovan back on a decent sleep schedule with a regularly scheduled nap, which um, I'm still working on. But she also says in her book to start doing a little closing phrase when we're done nursing during the day, like "Bye bye milk" and when he gets used to the phrase to move on to using it at night, but for the life of me I can never remember to say bye to the milk. lol
And, I just read through most of Dr. Jay's nightweaning plan that I found through the link to kellymom, and it seriously made me want to cry. I feel like, I really can't do that to him......
And just to add, DH works anywhere from 10 to 12 hours, sometimes 6 days a week, so I don't think incorporating him in this is an option. He needs his sleep or else there goes our bread and butter....plus he's never had much patience with putting him to sleep.
Again, sorry for a post on the same subject, I just wanted to get all this off my chest....I think I may call my LLL leader in the morning....