I gave up nursing three weeks ago after cutting down very gradually over the last few months and now she hardly asks for a feed before sleep. Initially she seemed to be sleeping much better but that didn’t last very long and now she is waking up several times through the evening as well as through the night. Some of that is definitely down to teething as she is cutting some new ones but I think she would sleep better if I wasn’t with her until she went to sleep, and I would like to find a nice gentle way to leave her to settle herself.
At the moment I literally lie down next to her (she has a little futon bed next to the single bed I sleep in when I’m there) and I have tried even just lying on my back rather that to face her and she goes crazy. Right now I can’t imagine how I am gradually going to move away from her as she seems to notice any tiny movement. What do other co-sleepers or part-time co-sleepers do? I am happy for this to be a very gradual process (even if it takes 6 months!) but I want her to know that she is safe to fall asleep on her own and know that we will respond if she needs us.
I also want to change things because sometimes it can take a very long time (an hour or more, although its not so often) for her to fall asleep and I realised I am feeling a bit resentful of that time. If she was happy with her comfort object and her teddy without mummy there then I could get on with my evening and some precious time with my husband. I want to be fair to L and ultimately do what is best for her.
Any advice would be great!