My son is 9 months old, has been sleeping in his crib since he was about 4 months old, has nursed every 2 hours since birth even at night. He goes to bed at 7:30, I nurse him and lay him down. For the past few weeks he has been waking up around 10 and takes rocking and nursing, more rocking to get him back to sleep. For the past week, every time he wakes up it takes over an hour to get him back to sleep. We are tall people and to have him in bed with us is VERY squishy, and my son thrashes so much I'm not sure its safe for him. Our 3 year old daughter slept though the night from 6 months, because we "sleep trained" her, going against my instinct but gave in to the pressure, not knowing any better. We want to do it differently this time. My husband used to be able to go in and rock him back to sleep if he woke up, but now he only wants me, and if I do get him to sleep he wakes the second I am out of his room. We have had him in the play yard in our room but it seems like he wakes up. I have a 3 year old so I can't nap during the day and I'm buckling under the fatigue.

Any suggestions for gentle sleep help for our dear little one? He is so tired that he is starting to cry all day, but will now only nap for an hour twice each day no matter how tired he is.