I have a 13 month old daughter who went from crib (I was never comfortable with this, and she HATED her crib) to a twin mattress at 6 months old. The reason we went with a twin was because I wanted to be able to lay with her at night, and our bed is too small for the 3 of us. Or when my partner is out of town (or if she's just having a rough night), she'll sleep in our bed (and he'll sleep downstairs). We've since given our crib away, and I don't plan on using one with our next child... I'm a couple months pregnant now, so I'm pretty tired.
This sleep situation works GREAT for us... She falls asleep (usually) quickly, and often will just call out for us in the middle of the night, unless we're in a deep sleep and don't hear her, in which case she will hollar sort of a sad sleepy cry. Either way, as soon as we hear her (we both strongly disagree with allowing her to cry), we go to her immediately and she usually crawls back into bed all by herself as soon as she sees us. I can sometimes just tuck her back in and leave the room, but most of the time I'll lay with her for at least a few minutes. We TRY to leave the room before she's completely asleep (both at bedtime and in the middle of the night), but often she'll want us to lay with her for a bit longer. Sometimes until she's completely asleep... Which I have no problems with at all.
Lately however, she's been not wanting to lay in bed at night, and has also been wanting to get up in the middle of the night. I have to rock her to sleep (which she doesn't protest), and if I lay her down too early, she'll throw one heck of a tantrum. She'll sit up, try to crawl out of bed, etc. And I really don't want to get into THAT habit... I love story time before bed (in the rocking chair), but I don't want her to fall asleep that way, every night.
The middle of the night problem has only happened a couple times. She wakes up, and will lay in bed awake for easily an hour (happy, but awake), then she'll decide she just wants to get up and go to the living room. I am NOT okay with this. Nighttime is for sleeping, and I don't want to spend 2-3 hours playing with her in the middle of the night. And I am very not okay with this.
I haven't figured out how to deal with this, short of letting her throw her tantrums and fighting it out. We're in bed, we're staying in bed, end of story.
I practice AP (and EC as well), but due to the lack of room in our bed, this is the only solution we've found that works. Is there a way to do this, and (at the same time) not co-sleep without the fuss? At 13 months I STRONGLY dislike the idea of forcing her to sleep alone, but because we have baby #2 on the way, it's becoming a bit more tricky with the rocking to sleep (we never used to do that) and middle of the night wake-ups. I FEEL like I'm doing everything right (tending to her needs, being there when she feels insecure, etc), but I'd like to hear what you all have to say about this. I can't seem to find ANYTHING online about attachment parenting, and not co-sleeping.
If you have some advice, I'd love to hear it! Otherwise, it's nice to e-meet you all!!