I am new to this site and still learning to navigate it so please forgive me if this has been covered already. I am a SAHM to 12 month old Vance and two teen stepdaughters. My stepdaughters lost their BM 4 years ago at which time I became their legal guardian. My husband was divorced from BM for 10 years at the time she pased. In any case, she was not an attached parent to my SDs nor did she nurse them. She worked full-time outside of teh home and both children werre cared for by a babysitter from 2 weeks of age. My husband had never heard of the term attached parenting until I got pregnant and started doing some reading. I was nursed for 12 months by my mother and she practed attachment parenting (although I dont think she knew that at the time) All the children in my extended family were nursed for at least 1 year, and all my cousins co-slept with their parents. The baby of teh family coslept till he was seven and nursed tlll he was 3 and 1/2. For me this is a normal way of life in my family. For my husband it is something foreign and new.
The trouble is that although he understands that co-sleeping and nursing an infant go hand and hand, our infant is now a toddler and as he says he "wants his wife back". He wants me to transition our 12 moth old to a pack n play next to our bed. But our toddler is simply not having it.I have tried but and not very motivated because I like having him in the bed with us and dont mind that he still nurses at night. My husband works away from home a lot so on those nights I dont see why I should sleep seperately from my son, only to have to get up to nurse, and then work to get him back to sleep and into the pack n play. We both sleep better and longer with him in our bed.
Anyone encounter this problem and how did you deal with it?