I need help. My husband is a STRONG supporter of AP and I like it in principle, however we disagree with our 20-month-old DD's current sleeping situation. First, some background: we co-slept from birth-14 mos. At 14 months I stopped BF and we moved her into her crib in her room down the hall. She sleeps through the night almost every night and has for quite some time (with occassional waking but she's able to put herself to sleep within 1 minute of waking). Our nighttime routine includes getting dressed for bed, 10 minutes of Baby Einstein videos, saying good-night to our 2 dogs and Mommy and Daddy, then reading 2 bedtime books, rocking and finally singing her to sleep. Once she's asleep we put her in her crib and she sleeps there through the night. DH and I take turns with this process so she isn't reliant on one of us to do any of the above steps. Up until a week ago this has worked out great for everyone involved. However, she's started waking up (and crying) when we put her in her crib and DH says we need to pick her up and hold/rock her until she falls to sleep again. We've alternately been up until 12:30am with the new process - with the end result of her sleeping in bed with us. I see this as back-sliding since she's been in her own bed for 6 months. However, he doesn't believe in letting her CIO. We're both sleep deprived and in disagreement as to how to handle this.
Let me say that at nap time she goes to her crib just fine and sleeps 2 to 2-1/2 hours. And I know at daycare she goes down for a nap without the reading, rocking, singing attention. Are there AP approved approaches to getting her to sleep in her own bed without being up until 12:30am?? Any advice would be much appreciated.