We started cosleeping with him at four months old in our bed (he was a perfect crib sleeper up until then). We loved the connection we felt with him. We new he was safe just by opening an eye to see him or just listening to his breathing.
At the age of two we got him a twin mattress and placed it in what was going to be his room (we decided it was time to introduce him to his own space and to give us a little as well). We started transitioning him to this idea by laying with him in his bed with him for naps and nighttime (to transition him into his bed). Either me or DH would snuggle with him in his bed until he was asleep. At some point in the night he would wake up and come into our room and he would then sleep with us the rest of the night.
We just concieved and we would like to cosleep with #2 and hopefully I will have a much better experience/success with breastfeeding. We decided it would be safe to only have one in bed with us (future baby) so we feel the need to wean our son from our bed.
We are thinking about doing this in stages.
Stage 1: Tonight I explained to my son that he's becoming a big boy and will be sleeping like a big boy in his bed with his stuffed bear. I lay next to him and read him a couple stories, gave lots of hugs and kisses and then sat in a rocking chair next to the bed. He cried and wanted me to 'snuggle him' to sleep. He climbed in my lap and wanted to be held and sung to. I held him and sung a lulluby and put him in his bed. He cried on and off for about 5mins asking why I won't sleep in his bed. I told him he's a big boy and we are going to try it. Each time I hugged and kissed him, told him I love him and sat back in the chair. Eventually he fell asleep.
When he comes into our room later tonight we aren't going to refuse him sleeping in our bed as we feel that would be too much too soon.
We are planning on weaning him eventualy from sleeping in our bed all together as with a newborn that could be dangerous with him climbing into our bed. - We plan on doing this as phase 2.
Am I doing the right thing? Tonight was very hard and it felt like my heart was breaking when he was crying (I don't believe in CIO) and asking for more snuggles in his bed. I feel it will be more difficult/complicated when another baby arrives. Am I being too hard on him?
Has anyone done this in phases?