My mom doesn't have a very toddler friendly house. Which is fine, of course, its her house. But the problem comes when my toddler walks up to the host of things he can't play with. As an example--she has a phone right at his level and is very against his playing with it (even unplugged--I asked ). Typically, I will get very excited about another toy nearby and engage him in it (distract him) and/or go find his toy phone. But, WHILE I am doing this, my mother will say "no" over and over (I do occasionally remind her that we reserve that word for life-threatening situations) and/or she'll pick him up to physically remove him from the telephone. While I feel these actions would be appropriate were he, say, playing with fire--I prefer to use distraction for the "little" things. This happens over and over with many things in her house and sometimes even if we are out together. Whenever I tell her I'd prefer to use a different strategy, she always tells me of her worry that my son will break her things. What would/do you do in a situation similar to this?
As another example of a "tricky" situation with other important adults in your child's life is- an adult friend/relative using harsh punishment in front of your child. What do you do with that situation?
I'd love to hear any stories and solutions others have