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What would you say to Jon and Kate??#106-23-2009, 07:16 AMI was so hoping that they would be the couple to really make it, but now they're disintegration in public. What would you offer them?Tags: None
#206-24-2009, 06:46 PMJon and Kate joys of celebrity???
Originally posted by art View PostI was so hoping that they would be the couple to really make it, but now they're disintegration in public. What would you offer them?
I think there is more and more evidence that being public puts a terrible strain (as if there isn't enough already with ANY marriage and with 8 kids???) on any relationship. The notion that we (the public) actually "know" the people who show up on so called reality TV is in my view a distortion, although an entertaining one!
So, since the evidence is in that Jon and Kate aren't recognizing the damage the public exposure can do, I would offer them a gifted facilitator who would guide them in how to walk through what's next with a balance of personal authenticity, and a way to hear the other with maximum understanding and benefit of the doubt.
A saying in Imago is, "You can be right, or in a relationship...You choose" So, nobody needs to be made "wrong"...and they can each hear and be heard IF they get some support. I doubt they can achieve that on their own. I'm at a disadvantage since I don't watch the show!
Unfortunately so-called "good television" ISN'T what is best for Jon and Kate. I know of someone who tested for a reality show and what the producers were looking for was a maximum of drama, crisis and chaos which, of course, is more available in dysfunction, dis-harmony, and all of the things we couples therapists are striving to help our couples diminish!
Sadly, I fear the producers are going to all they can to fuel the least healthy end to this relationship, if that is , indeed, where it's heading.
#306-25-2009, 07:12 AMBeing right or being in a relationship
Interesting choice you give. So you're saying that if couples choose a relationship they cannot be 'right?'
#406-25-2009, 06:39 PM