Oh yeah, I feel like that at times. Then I know I ned to encourage little adjustments in our sleeping arrangements!

pg 78:

"... One study found that, compared with solitary sleepers from birth, infants who cosleep from birth either learn or accept sleeping alone about a year later than infants who have no choice but to sleep alone. So the trade off may be this: the emergence of independent solitary sleeping in children may be delayed with routine cosleeping, but eventually separate sleep will not be a problem for your child, and the good news is that as parents you derived great feelings and memories from cosleeping. Along with those experiences, your child may have developed a more permanent capacity for self-sufficiency, resilence, comfort with affection, and the ability to be alone when necessary."

When I read this I do know that my child is delayed on wanting to sleep alone but I also see there are benefits to that that I can count on. I notice that my friends who do not cosleep their children have a problem trying to get to sleep because they have not had a great experience. THey have a hard time relaxing for bedtime.

What have you noticed with fellow families who are not AP in regards to their childrens sleep?

There have been times when I've been a little annoyed with it (I've been annoyed with all of my relationships at one point or another) but I love having my son there next to me during the night and can't think of anything I'd rather trade that for. I know he'll sleep on his own when he's ready but I want to enjoy having him with me as much as possible so that I can be more equipped to let go when the time comes.

Great Info - thanks! and also thanks for bringing this up, as you said, all rships have ups and downs and sometimes miss sleeping alone or just me and the hubster - same, re: wanting to do it when we are disconnected. Also, thanks for that, cos' glad to know I am not the only one who has disconnection with the hubby sometimes. Think I want life to be perfect too much

With two toddlers, our bed is so squished! So there used to be a lot of times when I was annoyed with bedsharing with the two kids. But I'd get so sad when I tried to wean them, so I ended up going to part-time bedsharing.

Neither of my kids will settle to sleep on the floor, so my husband -- who has to get up at 5 a.m. for work -- goes to bed with one kid earlier and I stay up and sit in the rocking chair with the other kid. It just happens to work that we have one kid who is a night owl and the other is not. The older kid is the one with my husband and she oftens goes to her own bed at night, and then I lay the younger one down with me to sleep when I go to bed. Sometimes, both kids want to sleep all the night, and I either plan on taking a nap the next day during their naptime (b/c I won't get very good sleep) or I sleep on the couch.

When my oldest was a year old, and my youngest was born, I briefly tried to wean the oldest to her crib. It didn't work. She would cry and cling, and I just knew that it wasn't going to work with her. So, then I decided that our weaning from the family bed would have to be very gradual with her, and when I get annoyed with the sleeping arrangement now, I just remind myself...well, it's only for a little while and then they'll be older and not want to sleep with me at all!

Co-Sleeping

My son is 3 and we have co-slept since he was born. Even in the hospital I refused for him to go to the nursery...I wanted him right by my side or in my arms.

I don't personally care about what age he decides to transition to his own room...I'll let him figure that out.

Co-sleeping allows for both of us to get a full nights sleep, and it allows for my son to know that his mommy is right there if he needs me.

It's something that works for us...and I would recommend it for any mother and child(ren).

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