Chapter 2, page 26
"Trying to punish or control behaviors without addressing the underlying dynamis is like a doctor prescribing something for symptoms while ignoring their causes. A deeper understanding of their children will empower parents to deal with "bad behavior" in truly effective ways... As to "normal" teenage rebellion: our children's compulsive drive to belong to the peer group, to fit in and conform at the expense of their own true individuality, has nothing to do with healthy maturation and development... The fundamental issue we as parents need to face is that of the competing attachments that have seduced our children away from our loving care."
"Trying to punish or control behaviors without addressing the underlying dynamis is like a doctor prescribing something for symptoms while ignoring their causes. A deeper understanding of their children will empower parents to deal with "bad behavior" in truly effective ways... As to "normal" teenage rebellion: our children's compulsive drive to belong to the peer group, to fit in and conform at the expense of their own true individuality, has nothing to do with healthy maturation and development... The fundamental issue we as parents need to face is that of the competing attachments that have seduced our children away from our loving care."