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Mirroring

October 10, 2014

By Kara Carden, API Leader, coleader of Nashville API and leader of API of Mt. Juliet, Tennessee, USA “I see your hand is squeezing his toy. Your face is getting very red. Your feet are stomping the ground.” There’s something very reassuring about being seen and affirmed like this. Describing what you observe is happening […]

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The Hard Heart of Parenting

February 3, 2014

My body tenses. Teeth clench. Heart hardens. I don’t hurt him. I don’t yell. Yet, my heart hardens with frustration. My agenda to clothe my two-year-old collides with his interest in remaining naked. He wants to play with his trucks on the bedroom floor; I have a morning adventure planned. After several attempts to wrestle […]

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Transitions in Attachment Parenting: Infancy to Toddlerhood, Part 3

November 20, 2013

We are continuing this series with two more of the most common challenges of transitioning from infancy to toddlerhood as your baby grows. Here is what parents had to say … What do you find most challenging about transitioning from using AP in infancy to using AP in toddlerhood? Challenge: Not Listening “NO! NO! NO!” […]

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Epic Meltdown

October 18, 2012

Have you been there?  I hope so, simply for my sake as I am in need of some mommy comforting.  We had a meltdown of epic proportions this week, at the tire store, in public, with everyone watching.  No, seriously, if only I could have harnessed that kind of energetic passion (to put it nicely) […]

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The Importance of Empathizing with Children – Guest Post by Dionna Ford

October 17, 2012

We are delighted to feature a guest post by Dionna Ford of Codename: Mama. Here, she flips perspective from our viewpoint as parents to that of children, as a reminder that what they experience is not the same thing as what we observe.   The Importance of Empathizing with Children by Dionna Ford   Let’s […]

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What’s the Word? Child Communication and Frustration

August 8, 2012

As adults, we’ve all experienced a language barrier at some point or another. You try and try to understand each other, but for some reason, your wires keep crossing. Depending on what the goal was, you may have just given up, politely disappointed, or angrily thrown your hands up in frustration. Now, consider preverbal babies […]

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Crying as Sport?

July 13, 2012

Everyone loves babies. We’re programmed to. It’s biological: A 2008 research study at Baylor showed that the happiness centers in our brains light up when we see a baby smiling at us. Conversely, a 2012 study at Aarhus University showed that a baby’s cry elicits a unique, lightning-fast response in his parents to soothe the […]

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Nighttime Parenting Isn’t Always Pretty

January 16, 2012

My first had always been a good sleeper. We co-slept through about 18 months or so, and when we moved, Little Man jumped right into his big-boy bed and that’s where he wanted to sleep. After I had my second child, we went through a phase where Little Man would wander into my bed in […]

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