spirited children

Understanding sensory processing difficulties in our children

April 7, 2017

Many families discover Attachment Parenting in their quest for how to raise their “spirited” children. All children, evident from birth on, have their own unique temperament. For some children, their temperament traits may be challenging for their parents or teachers. Common among these possible traits are sensory processing difficulties. Children with difficulty in processing sensory […]

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Embracing persistence in children

April 18, 2016

When my son was younger, I wondered why he had to be so determined? Why couldn’t he be easygoing like most other kids I know? And why did he have to challenge me nearly all the time? I vividly recall an incident when Ethan was about 2 years old. It made me realize how strong-willed […]

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Want your child to learn self-control? First, teach self-validation

November 30, 2015

A child’s ability to form healthy self-validation is a vital goal of child development. In fact, a child’s capacity for self-validation has everything to do with the development of emotional safety — the overarching developmental goal of childhood. To use the word “validate” in the context of relationships, we’re referring to the process by which […]

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He just wants to be held

August 22, 2015

By Julinda Adams I am the mother of two boys ages 15 and 9. Earlier this year, when I read the APtly Said post, “Using presence to raise independent children,” it reminded me of my own experience, and I left the following comment: “I, too, had a grocery store experience with a stranger’s advice, but […]

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The Clown is Sometimes Serious

September 22, 2014

The clown, the astronaut, the chatterbox, the complainer, the “slob” and many more stereotypes all appear in our families and in our classrooms. These are the characters that can disturb, annoy, frustrate and anger us, because they interrupt and spoil our agendas. We are convinced that this is how they always are. They make us […]

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