responding with sensitivity

Parent like nobody’s watching

December 10, 2014

Every now and again, we parents are called upon to respond to something for which we are not prepared. Maybe we didn’t anticipate a particular comment from our child or maybe his behavior is outright embarrassing. In these moments, we have a choice: We can hide under the table and freak out, we can blush […]

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Messy, glorious motherhood

October 26, 2014

They say when you become a mom, you change. I am sure just about every one of us has experienced that. It is awe-inspiring to come to the realization that just as our actions shape our children, our interactions with our children also continue to shape us. My heart loves more deeply, my mind works […]

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Mirroring

October 10, 2014

By Kara Carden, API Leader, coleader of Nashville API and leader of API of Mt. Juliet, Tennessee, USA “I see your hand is squeezing his toy. Your face is getting very red. Your feet are stomping the ground.” There’s something very reassuring about being seen and affirmed like this. Describing what you observe is happening […]

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No Quick Fix

September 16, 2014

By Barbara Nicholson, cofounder of Attachment Parenting International and coauthor of Attached at the Heart If there was ever a true maxim in parenting, this is one to remember: There is no such thing as a quick fix! Now, that may sound sad or daunting to parents who want some simple tools to raise their […]

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Holding Space for Letdown

September 8, 2014

“All I want for my birthday is to go away with Daddy.” It was months before my daughter’s sixth birthday. Although she had been on many vacations, she never traveled with her dad. My happiness at his agreement to take her away shifted into heartbreak when he decided to plan a trip without her. My only solace in his decision was […]

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An Unexpected Evening Out with Our Son

August 19, 2014

By Barbara Nicholson, cofounder of Attachment Parenting International and coauthor of Attached at the Heart You never know when a precious family memory will start out as a seeming disaster! Many years ago, my husband and I had been planning a special evening out with his boss. I bought a new dress and carefully arranged […]

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Why?

December 17, 2013

“Why mama?” Two huge brown eyes looked up at me, searching for answers. I stopped stirring and put down the spoon. “Because it is hot, and I don’t want you to get hurt.” Acceptance. There was no drama, no bargaining or rewards. Only contentment, pure and simple. For me, “Why?” is one of the most […]

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Choose Compassion

December 13, 2013

It’s likely, as a reader of the APtly Said blog, you’ve done it. You looked at the world, at families, at children, and said, “I choose compassion.” In choosing compassion, you really have made so many choices. A choice to become educated about parenting and prepare to welcome your child into the world; a choice […]

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