responding with sensitivity

The beauty of art, a book and a conversation

September 18, 2015

Some of the qualities I cherish most about my daughter are her love for reading, writing and art. I feel as though they allow me to see the world through her eyes. These forms of expression provide me with a wonderful channel into her viewpoint, thoughts and feelings. They also have opened up the lines […]

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There’s a monster under the bed

July 27, 2015

When I was a little girl, I was certain there was a monster hiding under my bed, waiting to grab my feet and drag me under the bed! To fool him, I would take a running leap onto my bed at night. Sometimes I thought that I jumped too close to the bed, so I […]

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Choose to respond with love

July 7, 2015

It was getting close to time to leave the park, so I told my 5-year-old son he could do one last loop around the trail on his bike. We’d talked before going to the park about how he was allowed to ride along one loop of the trail, where he was constantly visible to me […]

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Responding with sensitivity when it’s hard

May 21, 2015

As an API Leader, I frequently give parents guidance on ways to respond to their children in different situations. But the truth is, I don’t always follow my own advice. As all parents know, it’s one thing to be removed from a situation and think about solutions rationally; it’s quite another to deal with a […]

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Parent like nobody’s watching

December 10, 2014

Every now and again, we parents are called upon to respond to something for which we are not prepared. Maybe we didn’t anticipate a particular comment from our child or maybe his behavior is outright embarrassing. In these moments, we have a choice: We can hide under the table and freak out, we can blush […]

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Messy, glorious motherhood

October 26, 2014

They say when you become a mom, you change. I am sure just about every one of us has experienced that. It is awe-inspiring to come to the realization that just as our actions shape our children, our interactions with our children also continue to shape us. My heart loves more deeply, my mind works […]

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October 10, 2014

“I see your hand is squeezing his toy. Your face is getting very red. Your feet are stomping the ground.” There’s something very reassuring about being seen and affirmed like this. Describing what you observe is happening in a non-dramatic, non-judgmental tone of voice is called mirroring, and can be used as a positive discipline […]

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No Quick Fix

September 16, 2014

By Barbara Nicholson, cofounder of Attachment Parenting International and coauthor of Attached at the Heart If there was ever a true maxim in parenting, this is one to remember: There is no such thing as a quick fix! Now, that may sound sad or daunting to parents who want some simple tools to raise their […]

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