responding with sensitivity

Mirroring

October 10, 2014

By Kara Carden, API Leader, coleader of Nashville API and leader of API of Mt. Juliet, Tennessee, USA “I see your hand is squeezing his toy. Your face is getting very red. Your feet are stomping the ground.” There’s something very reassuring about being seen and affirmed like this. Describing what you observe is happening […]

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No Quick Fix

September 16, 2014

By Barbara Nicholson, cofounder of Attachment Parenting International and coauthor of Attached at the Heart If there was ever a true maxim in parenting, this is one to remember: There is no such thing as a quick fix! Now, that may sound sad or daunting to parents who want some simple tools to raise their […]

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Holding Space for Letdown

September 8, 2014

“All I want for my birthday is to go away with Daddy.” It was months before my daughter’s sixth birthday. Although she had been on many vacations, she never traveled with her dad. My happiness at his agreement to take her away shifted into heartbreak when he decided to plan a trip without her. My only solace in his decision was […]

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An Unexpected Evening Out with Our Son

August 19, 2014

By Barbara Nicholson, cofounder of Attachment Parenting International and coauthor of Attached at the Heart You never know when a precious family memory will start out as a seeming disaster! Many years ago, my husband and I had been planning a special evening out with his boss. I bought a new dress and carefully arranged […]

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Why?

December 17, 2013

“Why mama?” Two huge brown eyes looked up at me, searching for answers. I stopped stirring and put down the spoon. “Because it is hot, and I don’t want you to get hurt.” Acceptance. There was no drama, no bargaining or rewards. Only contentment, pure and simple. For me, “Why?” is one of the most […]

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Choose Compassion

December 13, 2013

It’s likely, as a reader of the APtly Said blog, you’ve done it. You looked at the world, at families, at children, and said, “I choose compassion.” In choosing compassion, you really have made so many choices. A choice to become educated about parenting and prepare to welcome your child into the world; a choice […]

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The Gift Is You

December 12, 2013

This post was written by TheAttachedFamily.com contributor Stacy Jagger, MMFT, owner of Sunnybrook Counseling, www.sunnybrookcounseling.com. Many parents I see in my counseling office are spending thousands of dollars on a variety of technological devices for their children each year–gaming systems, digital cameras, cell phones, etc.–while the children, who are displaying maladaptive behaviors and internal turmoil, […]

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They Swam and They Swam All Over the Dam

March 10, 2009

As we finished putting dinner on the table tonight, my two-year old burst into hysterical tears. It was the kind of cry that happens when he’s injured or very scared. My best friend Jocelyn and her daughter are staying with us this week and they were in the dining room with Cavanaugh but neither of […]

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