parenting without shame

Core beliefs and parenting

April 30, 2017

Editor’s note: Today, April 30, is SpankOut Day — an annual observance founded by the Center for Effective Discipline, working to eliminate physical punishment of children and to promote nonviolent discipline. This can be a different change in perspective for parents accustomed to spanking their children. It can be tempting to shift from hitting to […]

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What NOT to do

April 14, 2017
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Imagine an entire generation of secure attachment

March 29, 2017
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The opposite of addiction is connection

March 28, 2017

Could it be that almost everything we think we know about addiction is wrong? Simply, exposure to illegal drugs will not necessarily, absolutely result in addiction in every person. What if addiction isn’t about the chemical hook? What if addiction is actually about a lack of human connection? Humans are born wired to bond — […]

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Editor’s pick: How your childhood shaped your adult personality

March 17, 2017

Parenting is largely undervalued in our society. So much discussion among politicians and policymakers centers on public education, gender equality, and poverty alleviation. These are all important areas, but parent support is glaringly missing from the list. When I refer to parent support, I mean research-backed parenting education for all parents regardless of income class […]

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Understanding Shame, part 3: Disconnection

March 1, 2017

Editor’s note: This week, we offer you a 5-part series — originating in The Attached Family online magazine’s “Parenting Without Shame” issue — to help you better understand the development of toxic shame. Part 1 explained how trauma includes 3 components: Fear, Disconnection, and Shame. Part 2 explored Fear. In this Part 3, we take […]

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How little we really know about the topic of shame

December 19, 2016

Working on the “Parenting Without Shame” issue of Attached Family was unlike any that have come before. I didn’t realize, when I began, of how little I knew about shame as a topic. “Shame” is a term used often in parenting and parent education circles, but do we really know what shame is? So much […]

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Is it possible to parent without shame?

December 12, 2016

“Parenting without shame” is a hot topic on search engines. Google pulled up more than 5 pages for me of links with this search term. It seems that many parents are looking for ways to raise their children without shame. But is this possible? Shame is among the myriad normal emotions felt by humans in […]

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