emotional needs

Raising compassionate kids in a violent world

October 24, 2016

Editor’s Note:  This post was originally published on 6/24/2016. Through this year’s AP Month theme, “Nurturing Peace: Parenting for World Harmony,” we have been focusing on promoting peace and harmony in the home as well as around the world. This article is a great reminder that despite the many challenges violence can pose, we can […]

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Editor’s Pick: Emotional abuse, a dark form of children’s maltreatment

May 20, 2016

“Growing up in a household where your emotions are either actively discouraged or punished, or simply ignored takes a toll on you, a developing child. You internalize the message that your feelings, your needs, your views don’t matter. It’s a belief that’s rooted in childhood feelings. That belief/feeling is powerful, and it stays with you […]

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It’s alright that you need me

May 18, 2015

My child, I want to say this to you: It’s alright that you need me. Needing is good. Needing is natural. When you cry for me, when you wrap your arms around me, when you sigh because you feel happy in my arms…you’re behaving just as you should. You are finding out where you fit […]

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Empathy: The Foundation of Emotion Coaching

December 10, 2013

This post was written by Stephanie Petters, coordinator of the API Reads program. The discussion of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child  by John Gottman, PhD is continuing to unfold as we near the end of the book.  An excerpt from the book: “When children feel emotionally connected to their parents and the parents use this […]

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What is Misbehavior?

June 22, 2011

“Children don’t misbehave, they simply behave to get their needs met.” This quote comes from Dr. Thomas Gordon, but other psychologists and parent educators have said the same thing. Dr. Jane Nelsen devotes a whole section of her book, Positive Discipline, as well as lessons in her parenting classes to understanding children’s mistaken goals of […]

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