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Want your child to learn self-control? First, teach self-validation

November 30, 2015

A child’s ability to form healthy self-validation is a vital goal of child development. In fact, a child’s capacity for self-validation has everything to do with the development of emotional safety — the overarching developmental goal of childhood. To use the word “validate” in the context of relationships, we’re referring to the process by which […]

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Separate but Attached

September 18, 2009

I slipped into the apartment at 5 pm, kicked off my sandals, and looked around.  “Where’s the baby?” I asked my husband. “She’s in the crib.  She cried herself to sleep.” My heart froze.  “She did what?” He looked as  uncomfortable, unhappy, and upset as I felt.  “She cried from the moment you left until […]

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