Siblings

Second child adjustments, and judgments

March 16, 2015

As I heard the voices grow louder and the confrontation was escalating, I approached my 9-year-old daughter’s room. She exclaimed at her younger brother: “Ugh… You are so annoying! How is it possible? How am I even related to you?” I was startled by the harsh words. I understood her frustration. It seems as though […]

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Sibling rivalry is natural

March 10, 2015

It is natural for our children to feel anger toward their siblings and to experience anger in their peer relationships. It is how we react to their anger in these situations that will determine the outcome of how well they manage these angry outbursts. The book, Siblings Without Rivalry, goes in depth about sibling conflict. […]

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Giving presence to the firstborn

February 12, 2015

Editor’s note: The post was originally published on Oct. 15, 2008, and it continues to serve as a reminder to parents expecting another baby: For several weeks, I’ve been thinking about ways in which I give my children presence. I’ve thought about different ways I spend time with my kids, the talks we’ve shared, the […]

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Adding another child…it will get easier, it will get better

February 6, 2015

The biggest struggles I see from mothers in my API Support Group have to do with the addition of a second or third child. Whether it’s an older child having difficulty adjusting to the new baby, or the mom herself struggling to meet everyone’s needs, our API group meetings frequently come back to this topic […]

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The truth shall not only set you free…

January 7, 2015

It will hopefully save you and make a difference for someone else. As children, we do our best to navigate through this world with the guidance and support of our parents and/or loved ones. As parents, we give all of our love and do our best to nurture and guide our children. It was through my reflection […]

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Don’t blame the baby

November 7, 2014

When I am pregnant, I can sleep anywhere, anytime. I’d love to just sleep through the first two-thirds of pregnancy. I could fall asleep on the stairs, on the way to bed. I could even rest up for 12 long hours at night and still be able to take a nice morning nap. But there […]

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Babywearing: The next generation

October 16, 2014

Editor’s note: This post was originally published on Aug. 26, 2008, but it contains a sweet reminder for parents expecting a new baby and may be wondering how that will affect their older child. There is something so sweet about watching our older children mimic our parenting approach with their younger siblings. When our second […]

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Staying attached with more than one

May 12, 2014

As my husband and I prepare for the arrival of our second child (a boy!) this summer, I find myself thinking about how different it will be compared to when our daughter was born. With my daughter, we came across Attachment Parenting (AP) as we started exploring different ideas around giving birth and caring for […]

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