Respond with Sensitivity

Attachment, a Surprising Love Story

May 8, 2013

I called my friend, Javaughn in a panic on my way home from work (I started a part-time job as a teacher recently).  ”I have a post due for APtly Said tomorrow and I have not written anything. What should I write about?” Then she began talking about her own experience with co-sleeping and how […]

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The Importance of Empathy

April 12, 2013

As mothers, especially those of us who practice attachment parenting; we truly believe that there is nothing more precious than our children. We love them unconditionally and raise them to be kind, loving, and compassionate towards others. We understand the importance of meeting our children’s unique and individual needs, and we strive to treat them […]

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Connection Before Correction: How Attachment Leads Our Discipline Style

February 27, 2013

In my parenting, the goal of obedience doesn’t exist. It’s important to emphasize the part about it being a goal. Notice that I didn’t say, “Obedience doesn’t exist in our household.” I mean that our children’s obedience to my husband and me is not something we specifically aim for. I get its importance, though, and I […]

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Signed…Better Late Than Never

February 21, 2013

Hello all, I wanted to share this letter below that I received today. I am deeply touched that this person, identity unknown, took the time to express himself so openly and honestly. I hope we can all read it and take something from it, whether we are parents or not.   Dear Sandy, I’m probably […]

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Meeting Parents Where They’re At

February 15, 2013

I’m hard core when it comes to attachment-minded parenting practices in my home. I’m full-on natural birthing, breastfeeding, bedsharing, holding baby all the time, stay-at-home mommying or bringing baby to work with me, and loving guidance—which is why it surprises people that I don’t automatically condemn other parenting styles. For example, in another post, I […]

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Mommy’s meditating!

February 6, 2013

By the time my daughter was 2 years old, I had completed treatment for cancer. Still very ill, I was on a quest to find health. I understood cancer to be an environmental disease, and while I could not say I knew what had caused the disease, I thought if I made enough changes, I […]

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Creating space to “hold” your child’s emotion

January 23, 2013

As any parent knows, the size of a person’s emotions has nothing to do with the size of his body. Babies and toddlers stretch us emotionally by confronting us with feelings that we’ve been taught to dismiss, ignore, or stuff down to get by in Western societies. After all, it wouldn’t be cool for an […]

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When ‘No’ Doesn’t Mean ‘No’

January 9, 2013

The word “No” can make a terrible first impression. Sometimes it just doesn’t convey everything it intends. Especially if it comes from a young child: it’s not quite as literal as it seems. Upon first impression, “No!” sounds like: I refuse. I won’t listen. I’m defying you. I don’t respect you. Those are usually our first thoughts […]

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