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The More Things Change, the More They Stay the Same

October 11, 2012

When my children were babies, I was with them almost constantly. I breastfed and co-slept and wore them. When they started to talk they learned to say “dada” ages before they learned to say “mama”. I joked with my husband that there was simply no reason to learn my name. I was just there, a […]

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Mommy’s here

October 5, 2012

Just after my daughter’s second birthday, she had a prescription to get blood drawn. I told myself it would be okay and I decided that it would be easier for her if she watched me do it first. We went to the local hospital. I had gone there many, many times during the past year […]

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Baby: from Other to Teacher

September 28, 2012

If you survey mainstream Western baby-care advice from the past two centuries, you’ll see a common theme: the perception that babies are wild beings who need to be tamed in order to be incorporated into family life. The concept of “otherness” is familiar in the history of humankind – it’s a driving force behind the […]

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Extra Pair of Eyes

July 23, 2012

I cannot underscore the importance of a supportive spouse, partner, or mother’s helper when you’re a work-from-home parent of a mobile baby or preverbal toddler. Just this week, my seven-month-old son has learned to climb the few steps between the family room, where my office is located, and the kitchen. I had hoped the steps […]

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Helping Older Kids Adjust to a New Baby

July 16, 2012

My older son was 2 years and 8 months old when his little brother was born.  I’d agonized for a long time about child spacing, and was worried about how Sol (my first born) would handle the addition to the family.  We’re 3 months into being a family of 4 and I’ve learned a lot […]

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Mama’s Night Out

June 18, 2012

Yesterday evening I had the chance for a night out of the house on my own. Today, I’m recalling another evening a number of years ago when I really wanted a night out, but I wasn’t in the place to make it happen. Let’s compare and contrast those two evenings. Yesterday Evening My children were […]

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Life-long Attachment Parenting

June 15, 2012

There will be another day and another chance to get it right. When I was a little girl, I hated my father as much as I could. He was the most unloving, torturing, awful person in the whole wide world, and so was my self-talk 30 years ago. At the same time, I adored my […]

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Fighting the Battle Against Oversupply

June 12, 2012

And just because someone has the opposite problem, doesn’t mean that oversupply isn’t a problem in its own right. This was originally posted on the blog of Pittsburgh area doula and childbirth educator Vanessa T.  Fighting the Battle Against Oversupply With less than half of women breastfeeding at the six month mark we have to […]

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