Practice Positive Discipline

Surrendering to biologically normal toddler sleep

March 15, 2016

“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists. … Surrender is the simple, but profound, wisdom of yielding to, rather than, opposing the flow of life.” ~ Eckhart Tolle, author No other concept has helped me more as a mother than the concept of surrender — surrendering to the pregnancy process, to the […]

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We are in the love business

February 13, 2016

Valentine’s Day has traditionally been a holiday for couples, an observance set aside for parents to give each other a special token of their love. Bouquets of flowers, boxes of chocolate, candy hearts and cards with arrow-wielding cupids come to mind. What doesn’t readily come to mind, but perhaps should, are neurons deep within the […]

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Stay patient while teaching toddlers how to handle strong emotions

February 8, 2016

Over the past few months, my 3-year-old son has been going through a phase of hitting his brother and sister when he’s angry. I’ve been working a lot with him, telling him that his angry feelings are okay but that hitting isn’t, and trying to find better ways for him to express that anger. But […]

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Building a castle with my 5 year old

January 4, 2016

I’ve always let my children try to do a lot of things on their own, but lately I’ve been making more of an effort to allow my 5-year-old son more autonomy in what he’s doing. It’s sometimes hard to back off and let him make more decisions for himself, but I’m finding it’s worth it. […]

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Raising kids with grit…and an interview with Jane Stevens of ACEs Too High

December 22, 2015

Attachment Parenting International (API) is directly involved in building resilience in communities across the nation and around the world through its local API Support Groups and accredited API Leaders by supporting secure parent-child attachments. It cannot be emphasized enough how important secure attachments are. To be sure, resilience is something we all want for our […]

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What’s the harm in saying “there are starving kids in Africa” to get your child to eat his veggies?

December 16, 2015

You know this saying since it’s pretty much a parenting cliché used to cajole children to eat their vegetables: “There are starving children in Africa. You should be grateful that you have this food to eat.” I have never understood the logic that leads people to believe that mentioning such tragic information could motivate anyone […]

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Insightful parents may choose AP, but AP can also inspire parents to develop insight

December 14, 2015

After my post “To spank, or not to spank” was published on APtly Said, my friend Ingrid and I had a conversation about the challenges of raising kids and how difficult it is at times to discipline them in a positive way — moreover, how hard it is to keep our composure, especially when we […]

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Want your child to learn self-control? First, teach self-validation

November 30, 2015

A child’s ability to form healthy self-validation is a vital goal of child development. In fact, a child’s capacity for self-validation has everything to do with the development of emotional safety — the overarching developmental goal of childhood. To use the word “validate” in the context of relationships, we’re referring to the process by which […]

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