Practice Positive Discipline

Responding with sensitivity when it’s hard

May 21, 2015

As an API Leader, I frequently give parents guidance on ways to respond to their children in different situations. But the truth is, I don’t always follow my own advice. As all parents know, it’s one thing to be removed from a situation and think about solutions rationally; it’s quite another to deal with a […]

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You can do it: You are strong enough to stop spanking

May 1, 2015

Editor’s note: April 30 was Spankout Day, an international observance designed to encourage parents to stop spanking. Attachment Parenting International‘s Seventh Principle of Parenting: Practice Positive Discipline advocates against physical punishment and further supports parents to move away from the punishing mindset. There is another way. You don’t have to spank your kids to discipline […]

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Positive discipline is all about the right relationship

April 21, 2015

Some parents misconstrue Attachment Parenting (AP) as promoting undisciplined children and martyred parents, when in actuality, Attachment Parenting has a strong basis in discipline and balance. Parents are encouraged to look at child behavior in a different perspective than a punishment-based mindset. Children need abundant nurturing and an authentic, open bond with their parents based […]

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Obeying out of fear

April 7, 2015

“A child who obeys out of fear will only do so as long as he or she is scared. A child like this never develops an internalized sense of right and wrong without being policed by a more powerful authority figure.” ~ Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma by Nancy Samlin How do you feel […]

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Second child adjustments, and judgments

March 16, 2015

As I heard the voices grow louder and the confrontation was escalating, I approached my 9-year-old daughter’s room. She exclaimed at her younger brother: “Ugh… You are so annoying! How is it possible? How am I even related to you?” I was startled by the harsh words. I understood her frustration. It seems as though […]

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Sibling rivalry is natural

March 10, 2015

It is natural for our children to feel anger toward their siblings and to experience anger in their peer relationships. It is how we react to their anger in these situations that will determine the outcome of how well they manage these angry outbursts. The book, Siblings Without Rivalry, goes in depth about sibling conflict. […]

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Fathers, enjoy the now

March 5, 2015

Editor’s note: This post was originally published on Oct. 17, 2008, but offers a wonderful perspective from an Attachment Parenting father that can truly stand the test of time. One of the greatest gifts that a father can give to his children is to be present: to be here now, to be actively engaged in […]

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Saying “no” the Attachment Parenting way

March 2, 2015

“Many of us were brought up to feel that we were greedy or selfish if we wanted things. Our parents turned our wants into occasions for shame.” ~ Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma by Nancy Samalin This quote is completely true for me. Even now as an adult, sometimes I feel ashamed for wanting […]

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