Practice Positive Discipline

Developing discipline from the inside out

October 26, 2014

By Lysa Parker and Barbara Nicholson, cofounders of Attachment Parenting International and coauthors of Attached at the Heart Children learn violence in their homes and in their schools from adults whose best intentions are to train them to be obedient, law-abiding citizens. To that end, corporal punishment has been used on children in many societies […]

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Does Attachment Parenting pertain to me?

October 26, 2014

Editor’s note: This post was originally published on September 15, 2008, and examines how the author has adapted Attachment Parenting International’s Eight Principles of Parenting as her children grew out of the infant/toddler years. My kids are not babies. They sleep in their own rooms. They don’t breastfeed. If I wore them in a carrier, […]

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The time-in technique

October 23, 2014

Editor’s Note: This post was originally published on August 27, 2008, but I love the message it offers to parents about how positive discipline dovetails with responding with sensitivity in observing what underlying needs children may be expressing when they act out. Recently there has been a discussion about time-out technique on a Yahoo group. […]

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Impact of praise, an inside view

October 13, 2014

I’ve been on board with limiting praise for my kids ever since reading Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. I understood the negative impacts of praise in theory, I learned how to limit praise in parenting and I was happy with my decision. But I didn’t understand the internal impact of praise until recently. The Back […]

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Mirroring

October 10, 2014

By Kara Carden, API Leader, coleader of Nashville API and leader of API of Mt. Juliet, Tennessee, USA “I see your hand is squeezing his toy. Your face is getting very red. Your feet are stomping the ground.” There’s something very reassuring about being seen and affirmed like this. Describing what you observe is happening […]

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Teens don’t rebel against parents

October 3, 2014

“I am now convinced that adolescents do not rebel against parents. They only rebel against certain destructive methods of discipline almost universally employed by parents. Turmoil and dissension in families can be the exception, not the rule, when parents learn to substitute a new method of resolving conflicts.” ~ Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon […]

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12 alternatives to spanking and timeout

October 2, 2014

By Ariadne Brill, Positive Parenting Connection Editor’s note: This post, which was referenced during the 2014 API Conference, was originally published as part of the 2013 AP Month. It carries an always-timely message for parents seeking alternatives to spanking, time-out and other punishment-based discipline techniques. Coverage of the conference continues all October during the 2014 […]

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Spanking and the Golden Rule

September 23, 2014

By Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker, cofounders of Attachment Parenting International and coauthors of Attached at the Heart “Adults teach children in three important ways: The first is by example, the second is by example, the third is by example.” ~ Albert Schweitzer At one point in our own lives, we have spanked at least […]

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