The beauty of art, a book and a conversation

September 18, 2015

Some of the qualities I cherish most about my daughter are her love for reading, writing and art. I feel as though they allow me to see the world through her eyes. These forms of expression provide me with a wonderful channel into her viewpoint, thoughts and feelings. They also have opened up the lines […]

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Bedtime, a lesson in reframing

September 11, 2015

Bedtime…ugh! Every night, it was the same thing: My sons were 4 and 2 and seemed to be doing everything they could to keep from going to sleep. There was a sudden desire to play with all the toys that had been cleaned up, an endless stack of bedtime books, recurring requests for snacks and […]

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To spank, or not to spank?

September 8, 2015

I recently came across a social media post that opened with the following phrase: “Have to laugh at people who are against spanking.” The post stated that spanking leads to a child learning respect and boundaries with the absence of any trust issues and hatred toward the parent, and so on and so forth. It […]

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He told me he was afraid of losing

September 4, 2015

Earlier this summer, I signed up my 5-year-old son for a kids’ triathlon — a bike race, running race and water obstacle course. I was sure he’d be excited. He loves to race in the yard and pretends he’s riding his bike in the Tour de France. But when I told him about it, he […]

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Smartphones and parenting

September 1, 2015

Instinct tells you it’s been too long. She’s been too quiet. It has only been a few minutes since you held her. Probably all is well, but you can never be sure without checking. And, even if all is fine, you long to lift her, hold her, gaze at her. You wonder why you didn’t […]

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Give your child what school cannot — rest for the brain — and free them to grow into their own

August 28, 2015

Becoming mature is not inevitable. Not all children enter the adult world able to hold on to themselves while, at the same time, mix with others. For some adults, the ability to respect the boundaries and values of others, and still keep their own, is not an easy to do. For these adults, having their […]

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Being a mother means…

August 24, 2015

Being a mother: It means… …to hold and nurture you inside my body until the moment you arrive in this world. …having unconditional devotion to another being till my last breath. …to trust my instincts and teach you to trust yours. …to care for you, embrace you and answer all your cries. …to endure exhaustion […]

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He just wants to be held

August 22, 2015

By Julinda Adams I am the mother of two boys ages 15 and 9. Earlier this year, when I read the APtly Said post, “Using presence to raise independent children,” it reminded me of my own experience, and I left the following comment: “I, too, had a grocery store experience with a stranger’s advice, but […]

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