Principles

Feature Friday: Why You Should Always Apologize to Your Kids

February 14, 2014

API is pleased to recognize this blog post for its contribution to AP and to share it with you, our readers. API does not review other content on the author’s blog or website and takes no responsibility for how that information may or may not align with API’s ethos or API’s Eight Principles of Attachment […]

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The Llama Book and Why I Still Sing My Daughter to Sleep

February 10, 2014

Ever since my daughter was born my favorite part of the day was bedtime (and not because it provided me with much needed rest.) I loved to rock my sweet baby and listen to her breath start to steady and slow as she drifted off to sleep. The fingers she had so tightly wrapped around […]

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The Hard Heart of Parenting

February 3, 2014

My body tenses. Teeth clench. Heart hardens. I don’t hurt him. I don’t yell. Yet, my heart hardens with frustration. My agenda to clothe my two-year-old collides with his interest in remaining naked. He wants to play with his trucks on the bedroom floor; I have a morning adventure planned. After several attempts to wrestle […]

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Frozen

January 31, 2014

I am frozen. Frozen in the moments that are precious and true. I recently went back to work. It has been a hard adjustment.  I started in early November. I had to hit the ground running and it has been a blur since I started. I eventually got used to my new schedule and feelings […]

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Why?

December 17, 2013

“Why mama?” Two huge brown eyes looked up at me, searching for answers. I stopped stirring and put down the spoon. “Because it is hot, and I don’t want you to get hurt.” Acceptance. There was no drama, no bargaining or rewards. Only contentment, pure and simple. For me, “Why?” is one of the most […]

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Choose Compassion

December 13, 2013

It’s likely, as a reader of the APtly Said blog, you’ve done it. You looked at the world, at families, at children, and said, “I choose compassion.” In choosing compassion, you really have made so many choices. A choice to become educated about parenting and prepare to welcome your child into the world; a choice […]

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The Gift Is You

December 12, 2013

This post was written by TheAttachedFamily.com contributor Stacy Jagger, MMFT, owner of Sunnybrook Counseling, www.sunnybrookcounseling.com. Many parents I see in my counseling office are spending thousands of dollars on a variety of technological devices for their children each year–gaming systems, digital cameras, cell phones, etc.–while the children, who are displaying maladaptive behaviors and internal turmoil, […]

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Empathy: The Foundation of Emotion Coaching

December 10, 2013

This post was written by Stephanie Petters, coordinator of the API Reads program. The discussion of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child  by John Gottman, PhD is continuing to unfold as we near the end of the book.  An excerpt from the book: “When children feel emotionally connected to their parents and the parents use this […]

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