Feed with Love and Respect

Build the Castle

January 25, 2013

I’m sitting on my bed, knees angled in a V, my back against the Robin’s Egg blue wall. My son is building a castle out of over-sized Legos on the table next to the bed. I’m hopelessly sad. My mother passed away on Christmas Eve. She had a long illness and every Christmas was the “last” Christmas […]

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Weaning Early

January 4, 2013

I didn’t think much about parenting before I became a mom, but when it came to breastfeeding, there was never a question in my mind that we would nurse. From the moment she latched on, I knew we would be doing this for a long, long time. And so, on the week of her first […]

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Eating the Rainbow

January 2, 2013

I have not had an easy relationship with food. My childhood food experience could be summed up by the phrase, “nothing in moderation.” No that is not a typo, I lived in a home of extremes, NO sugar!  NO salt! Handfuls of vitamins! to name a few of my most vivid memories. I know that […]

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What About Bob?

November 20, 2012

I don’t know how Bob got the name.  Something about Bob wanting to break up with Ben, my son. I said it in jest and it just took. During the times I didn’t want to breastfeed, somewhere between a meltdown and bad day, I would say to myself or maybe even out loud, “Ben — Bob wants to break-up […]

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Why babies don’t “behave”

November 6, 2012

Have you ever had someone comment to you how “well-behaved” your baby is? If not, don’t worry, just read on. This compliment reflects a pervasive Western misconception about how babies function. Have you ever met an under-one-year-old who understood what society expected of him and adjusted his behavior to accomodate those expectations? I haven’t. I […]

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Motherhood: The New Frontier

October 15, 2012

I kept detailed journal entries in graduate school for an independent study course on motherhood I designed while my son was a baby. It was called, Motherhood: The New Frontier.  I picked five books to read, and basically had free reign to write whatever I wanted to about motherhood.  Well, to say the least, these […]

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The End of Extended Breastfeeding

October 10, 2012

In the attachment world, we hear a lot about the importance of breastfeeding. And lots of women breastfeed for an extended period of time. In our culture, more than a year is considered extended breastfeeding. So that’s what we call it. I just considered it breastfeeding. I was nursed until I was 3. My mother […]

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Feeding Solids With Love

October 8, 2012

Feeding with love is an incredibly challenging yet important part of our parenting adventure. My husband has a ridiculous number of food allergies, as a toddler I had tons of allergies and my daughter is at risk for allergies. Early in my pregnancy, I came to the decision I would delay solids for our daughter, […]

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