Feed with Love and Respect

Why Bedsharing and Breastfeeding Go Together, and What Could Happen When You Ignore Biology

July 3, 2013

And I quote: “To achieve maximal security for the baby and optimal availability of breastfeeding, mothers are advised to take the baby of less than four months of age into their bed for feeding during the night, but afterwards to place the baby on its back into his own crib…” This is the recommendation of […]

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Build the Castle

January 25, 2013

I’m sitting on my bed, knees angled in a V, my back against the Robin’s Egg blue wall. My son is building a castle out of over-sized Legos on the table next to the bed. I’m hopelessly sad. My mother passed away on Christmas Eve. She had a long illness and every Christmas was the “last” Christmas […]

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Weaning Early

January 4, 2013

I didn’t think much about parenting before I became a mom, but when it came to breastfeeding, there was never a question in my mind that we would nurse. From the moment she latched on, I knew we would be doing this for a long, long time. And so, on the week of her first […]

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Eating the Rainbow

January 2, 2013

I have not had an easy relationship with food. My childhood food experience could be summed up by the phrase, “nothing in moderation.” No that is not a typo, I lived in a home of extremes, NO sugar!  NO salt! Handfuls of vitamins! to name a few of my most vivid memories. I know that […]

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What About Bob?

November 20, 2012

I don’t know how Bob got the name.  Something about Bob wanting to break up with Ben, my son. I said it in jest and it just took. During the times I didn’t want to breastfeed, somewhere between a meltdown and bad day, I would say to myself or maybe even out loud, “Ben — Bob wants to break-up […]

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Why babies don’t “behave”

November 6, 2012

Have you ever had someone comment to you how “well-behaved” your baby is? If not, don’t worry, just read on. This compliment reflects a pervasive Western misconception about how babies function. Have you ever met an under-one-year-old who understood what society expected of him and adjusted his behavior to accomodate those expectations? I haven’t. I […]

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Motherhood: The New Frontier

October 15, 2012

I kept detailed journal entries in graduate school for an independent study course on motherhood I designed while my son was a baby. It was called, Motherhood: The New Frontier.  I picked five books to read, and basically had free reign to write whatever I wanted to about motherhood.  Well, to say the least, these […]

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The End of Extended Breastfeeding

October 10, 2012

In the attachment world, we hear a lot about the importance of breastfeeding. And lots of women breastfeed for an extended period of time. In our culture, more than a year is considered extended breastfeeding. So that’s what we call it. I just considered it breastfeeding. I was nursed until I was 3. My mother […]

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